My dd nearly 5, was invited to tea and play at a school friends house. this is the third time she has been invited by this little girls mum and the third time it did not gone ahead as other mum cancelled.
unfortunatly these things happen but I will not make concrete plans with her again.
this morning her dh dropped thier dd at school and said mum isnt well so will have to cancel, no problems at all, one of those things, but I can your dd instead, thanks but I best check, ill let her know you offered, but have arranged my mum to pick up so ill get her ring you.
I explained this to dd, who was fine and accepted this. was disapointed and asked if friend could come to us intead. I explained we will see what happens after school.
After school the girls mum was collecting, she appologised that she was still unwell. still fine with this an offered to take her dd home to save any disapointment, she was adamnet no thank you.
The girls at the door together seen it was mum picking up and very excited shouting yeah your coming to tea, oh great your mum is better.
I collered my dd strait away and explained no she was still a bit poorly we will do it another day.
my dd started crying, again these things happen and Im willing to deal with an upset child. but she just kept saying to her dd we will see. so this little girl is screaming in my dds face that mummy is better you can come, whilst im explaing and consoling and telling my dd to stop making a fuss etc etc and reinforcing that its a no. the other mum done nothing to make clear to her dd that it was not going to happen, nor to get her out of our faces whilst I was trying to calmly deal with this sitaution. she just kept saying we will see and saying sorry to me.
AIBU to think she was just avoiding her dd being upset by saying we will see at the expence of my dd.
I was so embarrased at this as it caused a big scene at the school gate. I wish I had just said something to her.