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How would you deal with this?

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MarioandLuigi · 18/02/2011 17:33

DS1 has been given a badge by DH's mad aunt (MIL Sister) saying 'No to the Monarchy' and she also apparently gave him a 'boring lecture' (DS's words) about how the Monarchy is a waste of money and they take money from poor people like us. DS now thinks this is the truth Hmm

We have heard this all before but have ignored. However this is the first time she has spoken to DS about it. DH said something to her and she replied that she had a duty to tell DS the truth.

I am not saying that DS shouldnt know other peoples opinions and be able to make up his own mind, but as he is a Scout and a pupil at a CofE school it might not be a view he needs to repeat anytime soon.

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sue52 · 18/02/2011 19:07

Much as I agree with your SIL, I would never try to influence the views of someone else's child. If your DS was an adult that would be different and he would get the benefit of my opinion.

MadamDeathstare · 18/02/2011 19:08

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exoticfruits · 18/02/2011 19:16

If he is old enough to be a Scout he is old enough to know it is an opinion and he will have his own opinion. It makes me laugh to think that DCs are supposed to be so impressionable that they believe anything an adult tells them!! Don't even discuss it-just say mildly 'everyone is entitled to an opinion'.

smokingnuns · 18/02/2011 20:40

aw come on, I really don't think he'll be damaged and need therapy in his adult life. So what that she's a bit eccentric? He'll survive!

GloriaSmut · 18/02/2011 20:48

It's never to early to learn that some people hold different views - and discover why they hold those views. For starters, your ds doesn't have to wear the badge and secondly, I think you may have confused his Scout Leader and Headteacher with people who might be interested.

As it happens, I agree with allegedly mad Aunt and must dig out my truly excellent "Stop The Cuts! Stuff the Royal Wedding!" badge from back in 1981 when we were last having a similar waste of time and money. Why, how things come around, eh?

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MarioandLuigi · 18/02/2011 21:10

I am not opposed to the views 9although they are not ones I hold), and I want DS to make up his own mind, of course I do :)

However his cub scout leader brings a portrait of the Queen to the meetings so they can say thier promises to her every week, and at school they say a prayer thanking God for the Queen before they eat thier dinner - so I can guarantee that they will care. I dont want him to be the one spouting about how the Royal Family steal money from us. It will be as bad as him going into the infants and telling them Santa doesnt exist.

I have had a word with him, and told him to keep what his great aunt said to himself, if he want to believe what she says then thats okay, but not to tell other people because they might not want to believe it and it might make them upset.

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MarioandLuigi · 18/02/2011 21:25

He is 9.

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PigValentine · 18/02/2011 21:37

I can see why you would not want him to repeat it, but I don't know about telling other people because they might not want to believe it and get upset. I don't know why I feel a bit uncomfortable about it - maybe the "getting upset" bit is a bit emotionally charged?

If you were really concered, I would just tell the Scout Leader your DS has a very opinionated Auntie!

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MarioandLuigi · 18/02/2011 21:40

I mesant get upset like get cross - which will happen if it gets back to the ears of scout leader or HT.

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Cat98 · 18/02/2011 21:41

yanbu

exoticfruits · 18/02/2011 22:04

If he is 9yrs old I would be very surprised if he doesn't have his own views-probably that he has a batty auntie! After DCs are about 6yrs they stop saying 'my mummy thinks' or 'my auntie thinks' because they realise that mummy or auntie are not necessarily right! (before that they tend to parrot views)

smokingnuns · 18/02/2011 22:24

However his cub scout leader brings a portrait of the Queen to the meetings so they can say thier promises to her every week, and at school they say a prayer thanking God for the Queen before they eat thier dinner

Dear lord! And you think his great aunt is batty!! She sounds like a breath of fresh air in the circumstances.

exoticfruits · 18/02/2011 22:30

Exactly smokingnuns-you really don't have to protect your DC-they have minds of their own!! They are not waiting for the first adult to fill it and then have a second adult change it. It is all a fuss about nothing-he can work it out for himself if he is 9yrs old.

Mayqueene · 18/02/2011 22:36

"However his cub scout leader brings a portrait of the Queen to the meetings so they can say thier promises to her every week"

and you think its the AUNT that's barmy Mario?!! Confused

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