to party poop work dinner? I feel a bit leaned on....

[stiflersmom]

I went into work today despite feeling manky, which I think was very admirable (I'm not contagious!)

went to late work meeting this evening and contributed to discussions etc, wasn't useless I don't think, but felt headachey and manky

am supposed to be going out for dinner and drinks now, at a pub very near my house

I mentioned that I wasn't feeling 100% and might just go home, but my boss said they would really like me there and would I change my mind and come out for dinner

and it is VERY nice to be wanted, because I haven't always felt all that valued at work - I have felt bad at not being included in the past, and now I am definitely invited and I don't want to go

I have popped home to change (pub is very near my house) and said I may join them, if I feel up to it

I don't want to be an ungrateful git and rain on their parade, but on the other hand they will have a nice time whether I am there or not and I really don't feel great

AIBU to text my boss and say sorry for party pooping but I just want ibuprofen and sleep? Or should I stop being such a minny-pinny and go and have dinner?

Take some ibruprofen, join them for drinks and bale on dinner.

hmm, they have a table booked and I think dinner is going to precede drinks - I can't sit with a pint of lager while they are all having their dinner!

I am really dithering here

dh has had to take the children to his evening group (Scouts) to free me up for this, he will be miffed if he comes home and I haven't been

Ah, misunderstood. Looks like you'll have to go then. Some ibruprofen and a hot shower should pep you up enough to hack it.

Do you have to be at work / look after small DC tomorrow?

bumping cos I need to decide NOW and I can't decide by myself [saddo]

I do have to work tomorrow, and my job is with small children

but it's half term after that!

Go, you have to eat anyway!

Go, but cry off early. If you contributed fine at work they may think you just can't be bothered. That along with your DH means you should go, have meal and then come home.

Ah, just go and try to enjoy yourself. The distraction might help you feel less shitty

Go, you will probably find you enjoy it once you get there.
Painkillers first.
Slap on some make up and a

Go, you will need food anyway and may actually feel a bit better.

ok you've convinced me

am going! xx

Take some nurofen, text them and let boss know you're IN BED (hint for no more texts please) and say you'll organise the next social (if you want to!) as payback - and then get into bed/bath with some chocolate/wine and a book/MN with a clean conscience.

Also make sure you thank the person who organised it when next at work and apologise for not making it. I am usually the works social organiser and I never mind if someone is a no show after a sorry not coming text - however it gets a bit tedious when the same people say they are coming each time and then don't show (not implying you are one of these!) Won't pay a deposit on things now for those people because I've ended up a lot out of pocket for stuff like that in the past.

Quick - get the text out of the way so you can enjoy the rest of your child-free evening/house. If you're feeling shit, a relax and a good night's sleep could fend whatever it is off.

Just make a quick appearance and then go home to sleep. Otherwise you'll just dwell on it all evening. :) Hope your headache goes away soon.

And, was it OK?

yes, thank you so much for talking me into it! My pain killers kicked in and I actually had a really nice time, and a good dinner

and managed to get away fairly early, so can take more pain killers and get a decent night's sleep!

Yay!

Now, get to bed. Don't y' forget how crap you actually feel?