To sensitively and privately ask the dance teacher to separate my daughter from another girl in class?

[ScarlettWalking]

OK story is DD is 4 and goes to Jazz class which she loves. There is another girl there who is always really very poorly. I mean temperatures, sickness bugs, viral infections poor little thing. Every week she is in class looking dreadful and her Mum tells me how ill she is and how she has just had a spoon full of calpol, this week it was "just been sick"

I am completely perplexed that her Mum still brings her in. The dance teacher is lovely and as the girl manages to scrape through the class doesn't really know the extent of the illness. D and this girl are good pals and always pair up, hold hands. DD has caught the last few bugs this girl has had and I am really fed up with it now. I was thinking of having a word with the teacher but don't know how to approach it or if she will think I am being odd to ask her not to pair them together.

Of course the little girl shouldn't be going - esp not if she's crying. IMO it is very selfish of people to take infectious children to groups (and I don't include a minor sniffle) but any temp, D&orV or rash and they should be at home getting better and not spreading it around.

Also v stupid of the mother to tell you. My reply to these type of comments is always 'I hope she/he isn't infectious'.

Not at all precious or pfb ish of the OP (hate PFB phrase by the way - both my dds are precious!).

I am baffled by your inability to read my posts Maryz.

We are not talking about coughs and colds here, I have said again and again these are Temperatures D&V bugs which the Mother announces to me her DD is suffering from. She gives Calpol before lessons and sends her in. DD is fine then after dance class that week she gets the same bug. It doesn't take the brains of an archbishop to twig she is picking things up from this little girl and I am quite sick of it after a WK in Hospital from the last one which turned nasty for my DD. I don't want her to partner up with this poor girl again.

All this PFB crap is just rubbish. DD goes to pre-school every day and no one sends their children in with fevers they would be sent straight back home. I think the dance teacher should do the same.

yesterdays lesson she commented " I hope she doesn't throw up in front of the class", it's totally out of order.

Look if the kid was that sick there is no way she'd be able to manage a dance class, let alone stay til the end of it.

Obviously her sensible mother is encouraging her to 'get up and get on' with it which is a bloody good attitude to have in my books.

OP, I'm with you, esp. given that last post.

If your child has been ill, and you aren't sure they're over it to the point of "I hope she doesn't throw up in front of the class" then she shouldn't be there.

That's not fair to anyone, the child, the other children, the teacher. What does she imagine would happen if her child did throw up in class? Poor teacher!

My dd would often be sick but she wasn't actually ill she would just vomit easily.

Maybe the mother has munchausen's by proxy... Cause it seems very very strange that her little one is constantly sick and then not only does she send her out into the world but she always mentions what symptoms she has now and saying she hopes she doesn't vomit in front of everyone? It's just very weird.

But before you flame me I'm NOT saying that just because the child is sick alot that it must be the case. It's JUST a thought.

I despise people who are so selfish when they or their kids are clearly ill and infectious and they do nothing to prevent others also becoming ill.

You see it all the time in the workplace too, people who are clearly revoltingly ill and don't care who they infect. I worked with one woman who came to work with a dirty great big staph infection on her face. There's also a high priced local restaurant I refuse to visit because one of the waiters clearly had a ringworm infection on his cheek the last time he served me. I wanted to vomit and run.

It's like when people come into work with a streaming cold and expect everyone to be impressed that they've come in to infect everyone else.

Poor little girl

good advice in this thread

I dont know why the OP is getting such a flaming here. If it was the girls mother on AIBU saying "AIBU to send my daughter to dance class with a temperature...I'll give her Calpol of course" everyone would jump down her throat and the main thing apart from her daughter's wellbeing would be the wellbeing of the other children!

YANBU at all.

YANBU - I bet other parents at the class have had similar concerns. You just don't take kids to a dance class when they are too ill, end of story.