that inviting the whole nursery to a 3 year olds party is a bit OTT?

[ilikeyoursleeves]

DS has been invited to a childs birthday party from his nursery. I don't even know what the child looks like and have only heard DS speak of him a few times. As far as I can see, it's a blanket invite to all children at the nursery. Although I am quite looking forward to going and I'm excited on DS's behalf that he has had an invite to a party, part of me thinks it's a bit much to invite everyone from nursery. Also I am feeling the pressure now that that's what you are meant to do...? We only really have family parties and was hoping the big parties might not start until school!

AIBU or is this the norm now?

I tend to have whole class parties because otherwise I end up inviting all but a few and I think that could seem mean.

People are so bad at RSVPing that I normally expect about half to turn up, only a quarter to bring any kind of present or card and to receive almost no invites back.

It used to shock me that other people don't do the same as me but now I figure that I want to throw the party for my DCs and I want my DC to have a great time so it's my choice. I find that kids or parents who don't know or like my kid just don't turn up so it sorts itself out.

But my DCs have a wonderful time and don't notice any of the things that I do.

My son never went to nursery, but from 2 years old we invited the whole toddler group. [about 30 kids] and when he started school we invited the whole class plus other friends [biggest 45]. We have had a disco a couple of times magicians, the really wild show. clowns and jugglers.

I want my son to remember he had great parties and we have stacks of photos and videos to look back on.

It is the norm where I am, only a few dont do it, this year he is 10 and it will be about 20 kids to a theme park.

I am thankful that mine are a bit older and it wasn't the norm! Speaking personally I would have hated it as a child, a small party with a few friends was much nicer.