to always have a "What Now?" expression when they hurt themselves?

[ChaosTrulyReigns]

Really, I have little patience with all the marlakey and drama over minor bumps and scrapes.

I cba with all the little fluffy wuffy 'magic kisses' and pampering. And gah, don't get me started on plasters 'making it better'.

I think that I'm being a lazy fecker great mom, and encouraging independence and bravery, but a DF thinks that I'm a cold bitch with injuries and should be cuddling and rubbing stuff better, because they'll grow uo to resent my get on with it attitude.

So, AIBU?

I tend to try jollying them along or distraction.
One day, DS was crying over a bump and I was really busy doing tea for him and the kids I look after, so I did the "Never mind, you'll live" routine without looking round.

"Aunty Tanith, DS is dripping blood all over the floor!" piped up one of the kids.

"Whhaaaatttt?!!!!"

He'd banged his head on a low wall and we had to take him to hospital for stitches

BTW, I love the "I love me enough for both of us" comment - can't wait to try that one out

YANBU! If DD falls over my first question is always 'is there any blood?Anything fallen off?' if there is blood running out I will do the clean cut and cuddle and she is generally tough. However, it bit me on the arse when her friend fell over and cried like the world was going to end and DD said 'Don't cry like that, there's no blood or fallen off bits y'know'.

Mind you, my mum took much the same approach and when I was 7 I fell and complained of a painful arm - she sent me to school etc. It wasn't until I came home in pain that she reconsidered and took me to the doctor - broken arm in two places! I still use that one against her

My dd banged her toe and I refused Calpol at A&E saying "its just a nasty knock"...one x-ray later, very broken toe, and shame faced Mummy!

ha ha ha i feel so much better after reading these...

my usual response is "are you bleeding? no? ok then up you get!!"

also the old "did you leave a hole in the floor?" or "ha ha ha you fell over...!" works wonders..

Lol I told ds to stop being silly on mothers day a few years ago when he fell over doing a one handed handstand, made him sit and eat the dinner I had just cooked, he was crying throughout (9 year old clumsy as hell!) dh suggested it was hurt so I phone nhs direct who suggested a&e and discovered there he'd broken his shoulder! Oops!

Still tell him to stop being a muppet when he hurts himself though!

op... i am so with you on this one

standard phrase in this house is

'i've had bigger cuts on mi arse'

then we ignore it.

my nan was great - she had magicky cream for my cuts

and if you banged ..say your elbow, she's say 'oh go band the other one, then you can hae a wish' son make me forget what i was whinging at

Chaos, I went the fluffy 'magical mummy kisses' route, and do I ever regret it. I need to start a toughen up routine.

The other day we were playing with bubbles in the garden, a bubble popped on her forehead, and I got "banged head, mummy kiss better".

She's been cutting her last molar this week (she's two and a bit), and although it's fine now, every time she catches sight of the panadol (I think this is the same as calpol) bottle, I get "ouchy mouth, mummy. I have medicine?".

FFS, I tell her, you are not the Princess with the damn pea, and she was a rude and horrible house guest anyway.

I take this line too, but it hasn't stopped dd being a total drama queen.

I think you have to be slightly careful about not going too far though. My mother used to take the if you've not been physically sick or are running a temperature you are fine line, and missed my brothers broken arm and rather more seriously my sisters appendicitis (so much so that when they opened her up they found she had peritonitis, which can kill you if not treated pretty sharpish). Plus the school weren't terribly happy when I was sent in with tonsillitis not once, but twice...

It can be tricky to tell the difference between hysteria and real pain I find sometimes. dd at 10 understands why getting into a panic about fairly minor cuts and bangs is a problem but it doesn't stop her from getting into the tizzy, and it really is very hard to tell if she is in actual pain or not. I'm not looking forward to her starting her periods on that front. Mine were very painful as a child, so I am fully prepared to be totally sympathetic (as my mother was not) but if she is anything like she is now it could be a problem.

ds on the other hand is totally stoic, and that's a bit of a problem the other way.

My grandmother;

"Oh it'll be a pig's foot in the morning".

I used to go to bed mortified.

Oooh LOTM, my DM used to say that too.

Generally about picking spots.

She was right.

My Nan used to say "It's far from your arse won't stop you from sitting!"

I do the tough love thing with my boys. They are forever falling over and bashing something/each other.

The worst was at my Grandads 80th Birthday when DS1 (then 5) collided with DS2 (then 2).

DS2 attempted to cry before realising it would cause him to lose his massive mouthful of cake, so he toddles off. DS1 was rolling around the floor wailing loudly.

Picked him up and dusted him off. Told him he was fine, stop fussing etc.. Then he spat out a tooth onto the floor. Followed by a mouthful of blood. He looked like a bad vampire movie.

Cue much wailing and hand wringing from my mother until DP took him off home.

He perked up when he got free access to Cbeebies website at home though!

I've never quite forgiven my mother for thinking that certain events in my childhood were attention seeking.

I jumped off something as a toddler, hurt my leg and reverted to crawling for days. She left me with a neighbour because she thought I was only playing up for her - one hospital visit and plaster cast.

Age 11 I hurt my fingers playing basketball, the following morning one of her friends saw them and suggested that perhaps we go to A&E to check them out - two dislocated fingers

Fell over on my arm, 5!! days later my mum took me to the GP. She felt vindicated because although I had severely torn radial ligaments in my arm there was no treatment beyond rest.

YANBU.

DS is in that 'nearly running' stage (18mo) and falls over constantly. Most of the time he is perfectly fine and can be jollyed along with an 'oops! Up you get!'

I find if I don't react beyond that he doesn't cry.

I have a friend who is similarly unconcerned, even more than me. If anyone starts with the 'awwwww' and fluffiness she says 'don't mother him!' I wonder if it is different because we both have boys and the rest of the group have girls?

My standard is to offer to cut off whatever bit Ds has hurt. There then follows a debate where Ds considers whether he could live without the chopped off bit. Ime the more fuss you make the more they cry .

Can so relate to all the posters above!!

I know if my boys have hurt themselves as they actually cry. Normally they just jump up and carry on - which is how it should be. I don't go in for the "footballers" who roll around yelling for the magic sponge.

Two friends of mine have complete wooses. The main problem being that as they have cried wolf so many times it is hard to tell when they have actually hurt themselves.