to be very pissed off with dh

[bloomingdh]

Dh has got to pick up dd2 from a playdate tonight. He asked me what time he should go for on his way from work. I said 6.45-7. At 6.50 he rings - he's just leaving the office 45 minutes away and he needs to get petrol! He asked that I ring the mum and tell her. I said no I would get the number and he could do it and he got really grumpy and said it would delay him blah blah. So I had to do it.

Aibu to be very pissed off. This is not the first time - he always does this. He stays at work too late, cuts things too fine and I end up feeling stupid and putting on people and making excuses for him. Really mad about it.

i think you need to have a proper talk with him tonight.

point out mainly how unfair it is on the children, not knowing if they'll be picked up on time, and possibly missing out on playdates when parents get fed up of them not being picked up on time....

Tell him you will NOT be making calls for him in future and that he needs to organise his time better

my DP is exactly the same... I got a call one day from school asking why he hadn't picked ds1 up!

"my dh is always overly optimistic in terms of what he can get done and the length of short journeys. "

I am like this too.

And it is the kind of habit that you push if there are no consequences - because your optimism is effectively proven to be justified if you leave late but everything turns out fine.

I would do what thisis suggests. Or more like, if someone said that stuff to me I would respond.

It's not fair on the children at all.