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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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in thinking valentines day is one piece of shit?

44 replies

ssd · 14/02/2011 20:50

no I'm not single or unhappy, just married, happy and getting on with it

but the older I get the more I hate valentines day, the tackiness, the pathetic cards, the all round rip off

we love each other, we don't need a £2.50 card from clintons to prove it

so IABU?

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bupcakesandcunting · 15/02/2011 10:07

It's only tacky if you buy into all of the tacky shit for sale. We just cook something nice in the house and have some nice plonk, watch a film.

I used to have a boyfriend who was proper into all the Forever Friends bear holding a heart/huge padded cards/single rose shite.

invision · 15/02/2011 10:14

heteromonogamous conformist mundanes

I'm guessing you mean the type of people that allowed you to be brought into this world.

Nothing wrong with Valentines day.

crazygracieuk · 15/02/2011 10:17

YANBU

I find spontaneous gestures to be far more romantic than a random day decided by someone else.

We have several special days in our relationship and prefer to celebrate those.

Laquitar · 15/02/2011 10:37

Like crazy i prefer to celebrate our own special days (first date, anniversary, day we found out i was pg etc). Or spontaneous gesture.

What i don't understand is women who ask for valentines present especially when they are very specific i.e. 'buy me 8 red roses'. What is romantic about this? And the childish 'hints' the week before. It is as romantic as going to the shop and buy some flowers yourself.

Ormirian · 15/02/2011 10:40

No you aren't. It's for single people who fancy someone isn't it?

However DH likes it and always makes a fuss so I feel obliged. I think our wedding anniversary is much more significant.

raisin · 15/02/2011 10:43

YABU.

It's my birthday and I like it.

Laquitar · 15/02/2011 10:45

When i was working as waitress we used to have fun on that day. We were watching the customers and placing bets on which couple is most bored. It was so funny they looked like they were doing something compulsory. And the way they looked at each other.

Laquitar · 15/02/2011 10:46

Happy bday raisin

Sillyness · 15/02/2011 10:50

i completely hate it!

my husband and i got married in april last year - we've been together for 5 and s bit years and we have always boycotted it! what a load of shite!!

wannaBe · 15/02/2011 11:09

yanbu. The whole thing is fake.

People doing things because the day of the year says they should, most of the people I know who gush over each other on valentines spend the rest of the year bickering or slagging each other off.

As for engagements/getting married on valentines, what a clichet. .

In america they go all out though which parents sending cards to children etc, someone on my twitter said she was upset because her mum wished her sister a happy valentines and only said to pass on the same message to her i.e. she didn't wish her a happy valentines in person. wtf?

fluffy91 · 15/02/2011 11:34

I think that Psammmead summed it up exactly when she said:

'Like any couple in a good relationship, we do show each other every day that we love each other, but a day just to celebrate it overtly?'

Its good to do romantic things all the time but one day a year to go totally crazy with all the slushy stuff won't harm anyone

Hullygully · 15/02/2011 11:39

We had wine, presents, choccy and a row where I threw a cup across the room.

What's not to like?

crapbarry · 15/02/2011 11:46

it's my birthday too raisin - I like it for that reason :o

StuffingGoldBrass · 15/02/2011 12:05

Actually, I have just remembered a reason not to mind it. It usually gives a boost to my wedding celebrant business .

GabbyLoggon · 15/02/2011 12:43

ssd...well my wife still likes romantic days. And I dash out for flowers.

But I can see what you are getting at. "Gabby"

namechange100 · 15/02/2011 12:47

GL more moronic posts

GabbyLoggon · 15/02/2011 13:08

Namechange, well you should stop making the moronic posts, you seem to have a conscience about what you are doing.

you seem full of Tory angst. Are you part pf the Big CUTS Society?

A phone in presenter once told me "This too will pass" she was talking about life itself.

So for goodness sake cheer up namechange.
Why not change your name to Grumpy Gal/Guy

lovenamechange100 · 15/02/2011 13:31

Oh that post was almost meaningful if not suitably nasty [handbag]

You just dont wanna know what part of society I belong too daaarrrrlllling.....its too naice for the likes of you

AbsDuCroissant · 15/02/2011 13:39

Meh - it's a bit of a rubbish day. It's pretty appealing/distressing if you're a teenager - but IMO that's the age group it's aimed at.

We didn't do anything for it (though my colleague gave everyone in the department heart shaped chocolates, which was sweet) because, generally if we're going to do something lovely for each other (which we do a lot), it's from our own volition, rather than because Clinton Cards or Waitrose want us to hand over cashish.

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