to be little bit upset about the timing of this phone call?

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My DM is due to go into hospital at lunchime to have an operation today (complications due to previous surgery for tumour removal).

Her dearest friend has been very very ill, dianosed with terminal cancer at Christmas and we have obviously been very upset watching her decline.

My mom moved to this area at 18 and became firm friends with Sarah (let's say), and was embraced onto her family, and a great realtionship has continued for nearly 50 years.

Mom spoke to Sarah on Saturday who told of the awful news that their DM had passed away on Friday night.

Obviously mom is grieving hard and devasted that she is unable to go to the funeral.

Yesterday we had the news that Sarah has taken this very hard and has been admitted into hospital.

An hour ago, just before mom is due to go into hospital, we've had another phone call to say that Sarah passed away in the early hours.

As you can imagine, mom is absolutely distraught and really is in no fit state to go through the trauma of a GA.

I'm probably being oversensitive here and overprotective of mom, but couldn't this phone call have waited till tonight?

Sorry, am unfeasible upset, but just needed a little vent.

Oh ImFab, she's not so great - in a lot of pain, although the op was a success.

She's really grieving hard as well.

I'm a bit more accepting today - but RL friends have been few and far between today for lots of reasons. Am seeing a friend in the morning, so I hope I don't overburden her.

Thanks everso for asking - it really has touched me.

Been thinking about you and your mother. I hope they have supplied her with some decent painkillers - it really helped me after my GA. She may want to sleep as well.

It will get better from here. Think of this as the pinnacle of things happening. You deserve some luck, some joy. May it come to you in waves. Watch silly television. Eat something nice. Be good to yourself.

XX

Sorry to hear your mum isn't doing that great.

Take care of yourself as well.

Coffee and cake with your friend, just have some normal chill time for a bit.

Poor you, a lot to cope with.

I am so sorry to hear of your mum's pain and her loss, and your own hassles.
When I was just a child, my grandad died the day after his sister - he was very ill and never knew she had died. It always upset me at the time that he did not know this. I'm sorry if this doesn't help, it just reminded me. :(

She's home now and happier and has found out that she will be allowed to travel to her friends funeral.

Which has made her feel a bit better.

Do you know, having MN here for me has made a hell of a difference for me these past few days. Thanks you kind, virtual friends.

Cyber hugs duly sent!

Glad she can go to the funeral, I am sure that will help your mum.

glad it all sounds a bit better
sadness and grief heaped on top of each other is v hard to deal with

Just to let you all know that she's now able to manage without pain relief.

In fact, she's managed to have a little dig at my cooking methodology this evening, so must be nearly back to normal.

At the risk of repeating myslef, I'd like to thank everyone on this thread for your kind words and support, you really made a difference to me last week.

You are a lovely bunch of vipers.