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to find this slightly offensive?

59 replies

Mamathulu · 14/02/2011 07:13

Yes, it's from the BC article on 'how to meet other mum's'.
I just had a Hmm moment when I read this, though:

"I met a lot of my mum friends at a nappacino meeting. This is basically a monthly meeting that takes place in my local café for mums who use cloth nappies. We take our babies, grab a cup of coffee and a cake, and have a good chat. I know loads of towns are picking up on this idea, so it's worth looking out for if you're part of the cloth nappy brigade."

Er, so only 'nice' mummies use cloth nappies, then?

OP posts:
OsbegaEthewulf · 14/02/2011 08:22

YABU; I think you must be on the look out for things to be offended by- very tiresome you know...

mycarscallednev · 14/02/2011 08:32

It's odd, rather than offensive, to think that the thing that bindes you together is the nappy you use! I'd go along and 'out' anyone you've seen secretly buying Huggies because they were on 'special' at Tesco!
Maybe start your own Dentinox for teething V frozen Carrot Sticks, could catch on!!!

cory · 14/02/2011 08:37

Agree, odd rather than offensive.

Muser · 14/02/2011 08:49

The Nappucino events I've seen advertised near me are for people who are interested in using cloth nappies and those who are using them. You can meet people who use them, get advice, there's usually someone there with a range of different types so you can see what might be available and suit you. It sounds like a good idea to me. Same principle to a breastfeeding cafe, meet people, get help, etc. Or a slingmeet, where people who do use slings can meet, chat and get help and those who don't but would like to can find out more.

I fail to see the problem.

Teenybitsad · 14/02/2011 09:01

If anyone would like to join my Calpol and Fruitshoot Group we're meeting every Tuesday at Greggs in the high street. We're not nice Mummies. We're all bitchy and mean.

QuintessentialShadows · 14/02/2011 09:06

Ill come, I love mean and bitchy mums! Wink
Much more interesting than the nice ones.

HettiesMum · 14/02/2011 09:09

OP - Life is too short to go looking for "offences".

WoTmania · 14/02/2011 09:15

YABU - I really can't see how that is offensive.

ljgibbs · 14/02/2011 09:32

Teenybitsad I'll be there. I'll get the sausage rolls and we can all walk around town while the DCs sit in their buggies eating sausage rolls and drinking their fruit shoots.

DrNortherner · 14/02/2011 09:35

Not offensive but totally and utterly DULLSVILLE. I don't have a baby any more but if I did I would gate crash and wave my pampers disposables around in gay abandon.

EricNorthmansMistress · 14/02/2011 09:39

'we were nappy obbsessed (they are so cute) and there were often people selling hand made ones there. '

See (no offense meant to DvT) I have zero interest in cloth nappies and would not like to meet other women who are 'nappy obsessed' for the purpose of discussing nappies. But if a nappy obsessed woman wants to meet other likeminded women for nappy discussions then a nappy themed meet up is a good idea.

I really fail to see the offensiveness.

JamieLeeCurtis · 14/02/2011 09:41

What Eric said

thumbdabwitch · 14/02/2011 09:41

YABU - and it's not really that odd to have a group of mums who prefer to use cloth nappies than disposables; there are more variables in cloth nappies than in disposables which is why there are so many threads started about them on here!

There are whole websites for parents who use cloth nappies - why is it so "offensive" for a group of them to meet up in a coffee shop?

Or are you just feeling excluded?

JamieLeeCurtis · 14/02/2011 09:42

I presume there is also a marketing agenda as well - ie cloth nappy campaigners wanting to engage new mums

DrNortherner · 14/02/2011 09:43

But c'mon, Nappacino meeting?!

giliair · 14/02/2011 09:45

It isn't offensive but it did make me giggle. Grin God could you imagine how dull that meet-up would be? I would rather stick pins in my eyes. Hmm

Muser · 14/02/2011 09:45

The name is ridiculous. You would not be unreasonable to laugh your arse off at it. But I still think the idea is no more unreasonable than a lot of other baby themed things.

Lonnie · 14/02/2011 09:47

OP I would like to know why you find it offensive. personally as an x cloth nappy user that never went to a nappuchino meeting I loathe the term "cloth nappy brigade" I am not a part of any blinking brigade and I find it quite a put down. However I am well able to read the sample you gave to see that it is not intended in any way offensive so I do not take it that way.

I would like to read the whole article to be honest.

MorticiaAddams · 14/02/2011 10:07

The name is ridiculous. You would not be unreasonable to laugh your arse off at it

It may be ridiculous but it was made up by the husband of one of the women who first started having these years ago and it has stuck. The other name used at the time was clothie coffee which seems to have been left by the wayside.

I can't see why it's any more offensive than any other baby group. The chances are that if you use cloth nappies then you will have something else in common with some of the parents.

They weren't as common when I had Pugsley and Wednesday (I think there were only two nappy sellers) and all of my ante-natal group were horrified by the idea of washing nappies. I really enjoyed finding a group of people with similar ideas and ethics.

Muser · 14/02/2011 10:16

I am only laughing at the name a bit, and I admit I can't think of a better one! I will defend the concept Morticia. I have a bunch of cloth nappies to try out and can imagine at some point wanting to get some advice on it all. Going to a coffee morning is a good way to do that. Like going to a breastfeeding cafe is a good way to get support with breastfeeding.

2babyblues · 14/02/2011 10:22

YABU - she is only saying how she met her friends.

It's like saying I met a lot of friends at work - would that offend you and make you think that I think only nice people go to my work??

BuzzLiteBeer · 14/02/2011 10:51

I went to a breastfeeeding group and met nice people there. Am I being offensive too? Hmm

YABU and bloody ridiculous too.

bupcakesandcunting · 14/02/2011 10:55

YABU to be offended.

It does sound very boring though. I might set up a meeting group for mums who like Gin and Richard Armitage, anyone interested?

Muser · 14/02/2011 10:58

I don't understand the people who say it sounds very boring. I'd imagine you are allowed to talk about things other than nappies at it. Why they might even drink Fruit Shoots.

Ariesgirl · 14/02/2011 10:59

When I said they are likely to have a bit more in common than just nappies, I meant things like "natural" parenting and products and sandals and green stuff blah blah blah etc.

I wouldn't have said it was any more odd than a BF group.

Not my cup of tea, mind.