to really love talking to my sis but it's taken 'til I'm nearly 30?!

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We're chatting on FB. We never talk much - maybe phone calls twice a year and bump into each other at Mum's occasionally - and she lives 3 hours away. We've never had a lot in common but now I'm finding it great to chat to her about nothing much in particular. Feels like having a friend. Weird but good.

Is it a bit odd to discover this randomly at my stage of life?

Not really.I have recently taken to chatting to my db who is much younger than me on fb,he works odd hours so it is a good medium in which to keep in touch.He lives miles away and we see each other 3/4 times a year.

my sis and I never got on at all when we were growing up. Only started to have anything approaching a relationship when we both moved out. Now (in our 30s) we get on pretty well but there are still limits on how much time we can spend together without starting to niggle at each other. You are not odd!

It's great! I think I didn't see her as another human being until recently. FB makes it much easier for some reason, doesn't it? I'm glad it's useful for you and your brother. Now I just need to work on some sort of decent relationship with my youngest sister, which is a bigger undertaking I suspect.

A lot of it is related to horrendous shit in life,disabled dd and dying dp,and fact db is so much younger and has been living abroad,but it is nice now.We have been chatting about inconsequential stuff,shared interests.

This is one of the benefits of FB that far outweigh all the negative aspects that people go on and on about.

Oh Mavis I am sorry to hear about that - it sounds like things are unimaginably tough :(. I'm glad you've found something positive in contact with your brother.

I mean dp died and I have more time,db was there but i hadnt discoveed facebook,since dp died we have had jokey fb stuff and i know he is there for me despite a big age gap,and we can fb each other,so what im trying to say is idont think its weird,if you live away from your family facebook is great,youcan post stuff lighthearted or meaningful.Thank god for internet!

Oh yes, agreed. I know I'm meant to hate FB for all sorts of reasons but I am in touch with people I'd honestly have lost all contact with - it's great for that. And it's somehow easier than phoning when the relationship isn't a phoning sort of thing.

I am sure given time you will get there with dsis if that is what you want.

Keep talking to her and see how it goes:)