AIBU to expect more from my brother?

[backwardpossom]

Today is my birthday. My brother posted "Happy birthday sis" on my Facebook wall. I've had no text, no card, no phonecall etc... AIBU to think he's seen on his FB page that it's my birthday today and he though "oh shit" and posted that on my wall? I'm not particularly bothered about it, just think it's a bit crap really.

Yes it's pretty crap. My DB always remembers my birthday.

However my Dad doesn't and that is much much worse.

My little brother asked if I was 35 last birthday (NO!! I was 33!!) and he only knew it was my birthday because of facebook! ( I THINK he's 25. Could be a bit more or less ;) )

Kazmus that is different I'm so sorry about your dd.(felt a little pissed off myself when nobody I knew remembered the 6 month mark after dp death,but not like it was his birthday or anything).Love mavis xxx

My brothers always forget my birthday. They're genuinely fond of me (I think!) but they don't do anything proactive to keep our relationship alive, so far as I can see. Except ring when they need a babysitter.

I have chosen not to take it personally, but it is annoying.

Agree with your assumption. I don't think there's anything 'crap' about that, unless of course you're under the age of 21. How old are you?

My mother has barely acknowledged my birthday for the last two years (an e-card one year and actual card last year - no gifts for either).

I wouldn't mind so much except that it's her birthday next weekend and she's been very proactive in reminding me that I'm supposed to be sorting out a meal for her for it If she forgets mine again this year, this will be the last celebration I'll be organising for her!

But then, my Mum is a deeply selfish person...

28, YourMajesty

(sorry, that made me giggle a bit!)

Happy Birthday
I've got 3 brothers and not 1 of them rembers any of our birthdays it's only that i give them a heads up a couple of days before that they get mum and dad Birthday cards it's just MEN they are rubish at birthdays it's just a fact i have to tell DP when it's his familys bdays as well

I remember my mum on at least 3 occasions asking me to pick a bday card up for her to write out for me!!! (my bday is at christmas so can probably excuse her)

BackwardPossum Take solace in knowing that IME brothers, indeed most men, do not bother with trifling things such as birthdays, wedding anniversaries etc.

It certainly doesn't mean he doesn't think a lot of you.

DH only 'remembers' my birthday because we our DDs remind him, and he certainly doesn't know DDs birthdays.

Happy Birthday

My whole family do this to me. It sucks, but they can't be bothered to make the effort to buy, write, stamp & send a card. Same with Christmas cards. But then come a birthday, you will see the writing on each other's wall 'card in post' or 'sorry it's late, sending card to day'

I am used to it now, still smarts, but I expect nothing, and anything else is a bonus!

My brother is the same - you might think 'unreliable young single man' but I have seen him in a long term family crisis, being the most reliable selfless person ever, and it's just that birthdays don't mean a lot to him - but families do. I don't mind at all about the lack of cards, I wouldn't change anything about my brother.

Happy Birthday!!!!

My dad forgot this year. No card - nothing. What was upsetting is when he forgot DS's 1st birthday but made a huge huge fuss over my nephew turning one :(

My younger brother forgot too - he is only 20 so I forgave him, until he splashed out on a lovely bracelet for my sisters birthday a month later.

Part of me feels like I shouldn't bother with any of them this year but then I'll be as bad as them....

YANBU my brother is 11 and he always buys me a card and a present.

My brother hasn't remembered my children's birthdays for a couple of years now. When I mentioned he'd missed them last year he was like 'Phew! Got out of buying presents!' Then in October he sent an email asking when my DS, DD and two SS's birthdays were, I replied, and lo and behold none of them got birthday presents again!

Oh well, at least he treats them equally unlike my sister who buys my two children christmas presents but not my two SS's (who live with us, are 3 and 4 and call me mummy).