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Ok so here is my defence..

i have recently come out of hospital where i basically didnt eat anything as i didnt like any of the food and i am mega fussy. Iv been feeling like shit and this morning have failed to get out of bed due to the medication i am taking making me feel awful with headache/fever etc etc..

So... My DP decided to take DD for a walk into town to get a joint of meat for dinner and to meet a friend he asks if i would like anything so i say hmm yes...

A cheese and bacon turnover and a belgian bun from (dare i say???) Greggs. this is an old favorite of mine and happens on VERY VERY rare occasions, when it happens i take it very seriously (eat slowly etc to savoiur the goodness bad greasy devil food)

So off he goes, he has just returned.. With only the belgian bun. when questioned he says they had no cheese and bacon turnovers...

OH MY GOD...he says he didnt think i would want an alternative.. Baring in mind he knows that Greggs is soooo rare and how seriously i take it?

so AIBU to feel abit peeved that he returned with nothing greasy?

Go on flame me i can take it.

YABU to call yourself a fussy eater and criticise hospital food when you happily wat a cheese and bacon turnover from Gregg's. Yuk.

Should have got you a sausage roll.

No excuse.

YABU, you should have asked for a sausage, bean and cheese bake.

How about a nice fish finger sandwich (on white bread with mayo)? Will make you feel better in no time x

yanbu, he is being emotionally manipulative withdrawing things from you and bnot purchasing things he KNOWS you would like

emotionally abusive person - you need to leae this anti greggs fuck now!

My husband would have panicked and asked the staff to whip some up.

On refusal, he would have then proceeded to buy one of everything else that they had on sale in the hopes that something else would suffice.

I've no idea why, it's not like I ever get unreasonable about these things....

......Anyway moving along, what have you decided to do with him?

My DH has been trained to call and check if they don't have the thing I've specified, he is incapable of selecting a suitable alternative without assistance.

He makes life and death decisions at work but can't choose an alternative loaf of bread if they don't have our usual.

I'd send him back to try again

I am SALIVATING at the thought of a Gregg's sausage roll right now.

He sounds scared to death of you, greeneyes

Green eyes I think I am your long lost sister....

Some sensitivity please - I am stuck in bed in Switzerland with hideous cold, gajillions of miles from a Greggs and I am salivating so much I will need a tabard more than the counter staff to catch the drool.

I want a sausage roll...and a polystyrene cup of Heinz tomato soup with it.

Home in March - I am thinking of making an advent calendar to count down till I can have one. Op I so feel your pain. My husband feels impotent in his desire to assist.

yabu

He his doing his best.

You are the fussy one, get out of bed and buy your own greasy muck.

I reckon that the Steak Bake is the tip of the iceberg - could you bribe quiz your DD to rat him out tell you what else he scoffed. I'd bet my last fag that he did buy you your much needed grease fest, but (and I'm only guessing here) his resistance had the breaking strain of a KitKat and he crammed it in with the guilt of an obese person sneaking midnight cake rations.

I only pray that your DD wasn't affected by the scene of Greggs carnage - poor little thing....

Sounds like my DH is leading a double life - does your DH look like Colin Firth? Posh accent? Scruffy Git?

Doing his best? He only had to get three things off a list in two shops, not find the Holy Grail in a Temple of Doom.

I will not fall into the " I'm so crap at this domestic stuff, it's better if you do it..." bs. That's how they get you, you see....

Greggs are fault here, those cheese and bacon doodahs are divine. How dare they not sell them beyond 11am!

I thought he perhaps wasn't that bad, just a bit gormless not to call and ask what else you'd like, AT FIRST.
Now I read he had his own steak bake? Only one option: leave this evil evil man now. For the sake of your children if not yourself.

YABU

You said "i have recently come out of hospital where i basically didnt eat anything as i didnt like any of the food and i am mega fussy" and yet you expect him to get you a replacement for the cheese and bacon thingummy.

You then claim to have had "nada" when you had a Belgian Bun.

If you asked for x and y, and the shop only had y that's all I would have bought. If you only asked for x and you truly would have had nothing then I probably would have bought an alternative, but that depends on exactly how much of a faddy cow fussy you are.

Does he know that you'll eat a Reconstituted Slurryfeast Steak Bake though? Because if you are so fussy as to starve yourself in hospital, he may well have thought he needed to bring the absolutely exact item back.

You'd have thought he could have phoned, though. Not good enough.

While he could have phoned, my dw can be fussy sometimes. I've found that if I don't get the exact thing she asked for I'm better not to get anything. How was I supposed to know that TenaLady isn't a type of sanitary towel? :)

lol at breaking strength of a kitkat..

Oh he knows i am very partial to a steak bake..

Very divided here people! we need some royalty to come along.

I am still deciding on his punishment

Cannot bribe LO as she is 11 months.. all i get is gooo dadadadadada out of her..

Oh dear - shame she is only 11months - although you can start training her now for future informing. In the meantime I suggest that you fit her with a hidden camera when she goes on little outings with the pie eating bastard her father