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to want to move to a house with less maintenance

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deliakate · 13/02/2011 12:57

DH and I moved to a beautiful home in May 2009. Its half of a very large Victorian villa, and so has lovely big rooms and lots of character. But DH works very long hours, and takes the attitude that he needs to do nothing at all with the house - I don't mean washing up etc because he sometimes does that, but in terms of home maintenance.

This place was built in the 1890s in a traditional way, and there is a lot of roof with gullies and back gutters, many chimneys, gutters, down pipes etc to take care of. Not to mention the wooden windows, and the overgrown garden and outbuildings. He says he is willing to pay people to sort things out for us, but we don't have the money for a maintenance guy who can take care of it all from start to finish (like I guess the original inhabitants of the house did), so we still have to keep an eye out and have some basic home knowledge as to what needs doing/ is in bad repair and when. As DH barely ever sets foot outside except to walk down the drive to work, its very difficult/

Anyway, am I right in thinking that newer properties need less upkeep? DH is very miffed about the stamp duty, all the moving costs etc, but really, I can't see my life being learning how to take care of our period house because he doesn't think its necessary.

OP posts:
expatinscotland · 13/02/2011 21:10

Apparently, they don't have the funds to pay someone to do full-time maintenance, SM.

So the OP will have to hire it out as and when.

The gardener just does the garden.

scottishmummy · 13/02/2011 21:16

thanks for clarification ex-pat.in that case small and often maintenance by both

deliakate · 13/02/2011 22:19

Is having a full time maintenance man affordable for many people then? I thought even min wage would add up to about £12,000 per year? That's not including materials etc....

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scottishmummy · 13/02/2011 22:33

i meant get major stuff done by someone not live in builder!

expatinscotland · 13/02/2011 23:07

Why not find a good people trafficker? I'm sure a good one could find you an illegal worker to do FT maintenance at an affordable price.

Hmm
Biscuitscoco · 13/02/2011 23:40

I live in a Victorian house. I manage to maintain it without:
a live-in handyman (!!)
lessons in how to care for it
a gardener

Can't see the problem - and don't most houses have "wooden windows"?

dickcheeseandthecrackers · 14/02/2011 05:14

Sort the Gardner out if you have one already. Lawn, weeds, plants, general tidy up. Write a list of jobs and give it to him.
I really don't see the problem if you can afford to hire out as and when. My dh works long hours in the city too and he doesn't have the time or energy for diy stuff so I just research and get it done.

Slightlyreluctantexpat · 14/02/2011 05:45

I can see the OP's problem. Probably the reality of the big old house is different from the dream.

We once bought a house that turned out to be much shabbier and to have more faults than we had initially thought. Even though you have a survey done, it is possible to get carried away, and of course it is naive, but sometimes people are naive, then learn from the mistake.

Deliakate, maybe you should move to a newbuild, or a flat? Somewhere where you don't have to keep keep thinking of household maintenance issues all the time. It sounds like that's not your cup of tea really.

traceybath · 14/02/2011 06:45

The idea of a live-in maintenance man has cheered my early start up Grin

Do you live in a National Trust property?

Just phone up a local handyman (talk to your neighbours and get some recommendations) and get him/her to come round and give you some quotes.

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