Sorry, this is long! Just wanted to get a feel for what other people would do in my situation.
One of my best and oldest friends is getting married in May, with hen do a few weeks before. She is going to lanzarote for a long weekend. They are staying in a villa and due to a health condition that my friend has, it will not be a boozy, noisy type of hen do, more chilling around the pool during the day and quiet meals in the evening. She stipulated right from the outset that babies were welcome to come (as a few of her close friends have kids), because it will be a chilled affair and plenty of room in the villa.
I had originally said no to going, mainly because i am still on mat leave so it is a lot of money to spend and didn't think it was that fair to take ds away from dh for 3 days. Other friends with babies also said no for various reasons.
Since then a couple of things have happened to make me rethink. Firstly, the bride has basically had loads of people drop out, 2 due to pregnancy, 1 buying a house etc etc, so now only has a few people going which i know she is upset about. To a certain extent, she did bring this on herself as her bridesmaids (also good friends of mine) did try to tell her that it might be worth thinking about a uk hen do if she wanted decent numbers because of people trying for babies/moving house/getting married/got small babies etc, but she had her heart set on lanzarote so there we go. I just know that she is very disappointed that so few of her close friends can get there and i feel guilty for not going, esp as we've had a slight change in our financial situation which means that i could now afford to go. The other thing which has made me rethink is that dh is going on a stag do over the weekend of the royal wedding - he is best man so really did have to go, but after he made me feel guilty about thinking about taking ds away with me for 3 days without him, he was perfectly happy to extend his stag do by a day when the bank holiday for the royal wedding was announced. Seems to me that it is a bit hypocritical of him to make me feel bad because he won't see ds for 3 days if i take him away, but he is quite happy not to see him for 4 days when he is out getting drunk in marbella with his mates!Dh is now saying i should go if i want to, but i know he's not really that keen on me doing it. If we do go, ds will be the only baby (altho i have a feeling that if i book on, one of other friends with a baby may follow suit).
I really can't decide what to do for the best - keep changing my mind. What do you guys think? Am i unreasonable for thinking of going? Really interested to get some objective opinions on this one!
(I should say that i would not go with ds - i wouldn't leave him for 3 days, its either he comes or neither of us go)