for my friend not to tell people I want friends with benefits?

[doubleease]

I've known my friend (who's quote a loudmouth) just over a year and haven't dated anyone in that time (I had just finished with someone when we became friends). Ok, I will admit on one occasion I did sleep with one of her mates when I was a bit drunk but, you know I hadn't had it for a year and it seemed a good idea at the time.

In all the time I've known her he is the only person I have had a one night stand with. I've spoke to blokes when we're out but either didn't really fancy them or knew they were after the leg over so gave them a wide berth.

She came round the other day to have a bit of a moan about her fella who's she's marrying and she mentioned that she had said to her other best mate (from where she originally came from) that I'm the mate she can come and have a moan to about blokes and I'm not interested in having a permenant bloke and am really only looking for a F with B.

Tonight in the pub, after she'd had a few she was still going on to all who would listen that I'm not the settling down type and I'm just after a shag. I got really pissed off with her and said would she mind not fucking introducing me as her mate who only wants to have a friends with benefits.

Tonight in the pub she the went on to say in front of everyone that the last bloke I was seeing I finished with him because he sent me flowers ergo I don't want to find a decent bloke and only want a friend with benefits, which is not true - we had finished well before then (before me and her were friends)and he was hassling me to get back with him hence the flowers.

AIBU to feel really pissed off, even though I have told her time and time again to shut it. Now everyone who heard in the pub (including a bloke who I quite like who will now think I'm a trollop) will think I don't want to settle down and just want to shag my way through the male population. And if I do want a fuck buddy it should be up to me to tell people not her?

I really would like to find a nice bloke but feel she's mouthing off to all and sundry I don't have a chance.

Gawd that was long sorry.

If she's a bit of a handful, especially when she's had a few, then most people will take what she says with a pinch of salt.

I'm sure everyone who heard her is just ing at her talking about you like that, with you standing right there.

It doesn't sound like it's banter, or you'd know she was joshing with you.

So you're left with the questions of why would a so called friend be like that with you?

And do you want to continue spending any time with her?

Just make sure you stick up for yourself and say that it isn't true and she's blowing things waaaaaay out of proportion :)

YANBU I would be pissed off at her too. Tell her when she is sober how much it upsets you. And if she doesn't stop then ditch her or make up something that will annoy her and trot it out everytime she mentions you and your 'wants'.

1. Laugh it off in public.

1. Give her a wide berth in future. And don't tell her any more of your personal business.

Thank you. Was just checking I wasn't over- reacting

She's a good mate in every other way.

agent I don't think she says it to be malicious although I do know she isn't joking. To be honest I don't think it even crossed her mind I'm single because I haven't met someone that I'd like to date.

yank believe me I do stick up for myself and last night I blew my top - it had got to the point where I couldn't laugh it off anymore after the amount of times she has said it to me in private. I don't think she was expecting it and seemed puzzled as to why I got so annoyed.

budd She's getting married in the summer and has a bit of the smug bride to be attitude. Mind you she's marrying a right knobhead and has to beg for any affection from him so maybe if I bring that up in front of everyone if she says it again she might shut up. Mind you I'm not really a tit for tat person but I'll bear it in mind.