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to want to ring the police over wankers downstairs?

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makemeskinny · 12/02/2011 21:44

I live in a flat and every friday the people below me cause havok, as far as i'm aware 2 middle aged ladies live there and one of them has a 16 year old son, he has all his mates round getting drunk and banging about slamming doors having arguements, throwing beer bottles off the balcony yelling down to friends in the road(he's 1st floor i'm 2nd)

Tonight it sounds like theres at least 20 of them they are all in the street on the balcony and in the flat.

I do go out and ask them to keep the voices down and ease up on the banging. To be fair tho i'm on my own at its really daunting incase one of them answers back, or worse it comes out larey and they do all the above on purpose.

I've lived here nearly 18 months and its only the last few months this has been happening.

I want to ring the police but again i'm worried it will make things worse. wwyd?

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Kerrianne · 12/02/2011 21:46

That's awful for you. Is it a council flat or private landlord?

WimpleOfTheBallet · 12/02/2011 21:48

Ring the police if it goes on after 10.00pm..they will come out and tell them to shut up.

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makemeskinny · 12/02/2011 21:49

its a HA flat and i've thought about complaining but they'd know it was me coz i go out every week to ask them to be quiet so its obvious, I'm so scared I'll make this worse if I act.

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AgentZigzag · 12/02/2011 21:50

Without a doubt ring the non-emergency number, or the council.

The sound like they're making your life a misery, and it's not right you feel intimidated.

I'm sure there are plenty of other people they're causing a problem for, even if they think or say it's you calling them, just deny it.

Could you have a word with the mum on another day if you don't feel like the police route? Are they approachable?

AgentZigzag · 12/02/2011 21:51

If you go every week, it's not as though you haven't given then a bloody chance to STFU!

Let them take responsibility for the nuisance they're causeing, it's not your problem.

Kerrianne · 12/02/2011 21:51

I see what you mean, but if they're making that much noise, it really could be anyone in your flats/street that's complained.

Actually, it's very likely someone has written to the HA so the more complaints the better to back it up.

MadamDeathstare · 12/02/2011 21:51

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makemeskinny · 12/02/2011 21:55

omg I am intimidated, i never thought i would be!!

I thought about the mum route but once again i'm worried they will be defensive and it will backfire again.

I've wanted to go down and say it face to face but my ds is only 1 and I dont want to leave him whilst I go down.

but its never gonna get sorted if i dont do something, what do you think will be the best option?

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Valpollicella · 12/02/2011 21:57

Look on your local authority website - they will have a number for out of hours noise reporting. Please do call them. You can't go on living like this.

Kerrianne · 12/02/2011 22:01

I like Madamedeathstare's idea of getting a joint letter together. These people must be annoying more than just you.

AgentZigzag · 12/02/2011 22:01

Like Valpollicella says, call the council/police, and keep calling them until they sort the buggers out.

You can understand a teenager piss up once in a while, but not relentlessly every fucking week.

You've been patient so far, but it doesn't seem to have worked.

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makemeskinny · 12/02/2011 22:06

OMG!!!! They've just woken my ds up so i thought fuck it its a bunch of kids so i went downstairs and knocked on the door....one of the ladies answered!!!!

I then became a bumbling mess coz she was 50+ standing there with a fag and a smirnoff ice in her hand!!!

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jalopy · 12/02/2011 22:10

Inform the housing association. The tenants would have signed a tenancy agreement. They will be rules about antisocial behaviour.

Keep a log of all incidents.

Contact local council and ask for noise levels to be monitored.

Contact community police about disturbances.

Valpollicella · 12/02/2011 22:18

What did you say to her?

Amieesmum · 12/02/2011 22:43

Hey love, I had a huge issue with a neibour, go to the HA as soon as you can and lodge a complaint, They will have every chance to comply and rectify the problem, and will not be allowed to approach you re this. Also the local council will send out some one from environmental health to deal with the noise problem after 10pm at night.

If it's frightening you call the police on the non emergency number. Their behavior is totally unacceptable & you're well within your rights to do so. Especially if they are doing this outside the flat as well.

Try keeping a log of it every time it happens, as this will help the HA deal with it. They have special departments to deal with this sort of thing, and will take it seriously i promise. It's really not fair you and your DC have to put up with it.

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makemeskinny · 12/02/2011 22:47

well i was expecting a young spotty lad to answer but instead she did!(first time i've seen her up close and spoken to her) I couldnt get the words out right, was trying to say can you keep the banging down and instead said can you keep banging!!!

she just stared at me, so i tried again saying they've woken my son up and can they keep the noise down, she said something about a door and she'd have a word but i was just eager to get away!!

now they have the patio door open and have got the sing star out and have just heard a load of blokes do barbie girl!!

Def didnt work, will attempt a complaint letter in the morning!!

Banging hasn't stopped either!

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Valpollicella · 12/02/2011 23:07

Ok. You now need to ring the Environmental Health people on your council website.

Just do it.

I really don;t see how a complaint letter will help if this has been going on for a while and you have already spoken to them about it.

FFS you have just been down to explaing its woken your one yo. And now patio doors are open and SIng Star is on Hmm

The won't care less about a bit of paper.

Sorry to be negative but you need official people in. And this evening.

Otherwise can you imagine this going on every weekend for the next God knows hoever long?

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makemeskinny · 12/02/2011 23:15

I meant complaint letter to HA not to people downstairs, Agree that they do not give a shit and looks unlikely they'll change unless something drastic happens.

PITA.

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Spenguin · 12/02/2011 23:22

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! We've all been there with horrible neighbours.

Maybe you could be a bit sneaky and pretend you're totally fine with it all and thus make it less obvious that you're the one who's been phoning the police?!

Valpollicella · 12/02/2011 23:32

Sorry, I see Makeme.

MadamDeathstare · 13/02/2011 16:02

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Tortington · 13/02/2011 16:08

phone environmental health - look on your council website - they even have an out of hours

phone up your housing officer - or theirs and tell thema bout the situation - tell them you dont want to make it obvious that its you and ask if they will send a letter to every HA tenant in the block

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