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Original poster

to hope his beans on toast f*cking chokes him?

29 replies

Bogeyface · 12/02/2011 18:59

Git

He walks in from work, kids arent here. "Whats for dinner" "I have bought some sausages and bacon and stuff" (breakfast for dinner is one of our favourites!)

The next thing I hear is the toaster and the micro pinging within seconds of each other. He has decided to do himself beans on toast.

So I asked what he was doing and he said that he fancied that. So I, not unreasonably asked what I was to to do with the stuff I had bought and he said save it. Fair enough, but what am I to have to eat? He said "Cant you just get yourself something?"

Or, given that I am hobbling around like my legs have been tied together, and in pain HE could have offered to do me something, could he not?!

And now he is getting pissed off with me because I am pissed off with him and I am so annoyed I couldnt eat anything anyway. So there is another day without a proper meal, which at 26 weeks pg isnt a good idea.

Selfish bastard can stick his fucking tea up his fat fucking selfish arse.

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Fernie3 · 12/02/2011 19:01

eat the sausages and bacon and dont share.

stoppinchingthedummy · 12/02/2011 19:02

YADNBU!! selfish twat!!! Order yourself a nice take away and dont ask him what he wants :D

Fernie3 · 12/02/2011 19:03

ooo yes takeaway is a much better idea.

GetOrfMoiLand · 12/02/2011 19:04

Yes, order in a pizza. Fuck him and his beans. The lazy arse.

thisisyesterday · 12/02/2011 19:05

well... can't you just have what you were planning on having??

Mists · 12/02/2011 19:06

YANBU and should order takeaway or eat the lot yourself (love breakfast for dinner) but I know that horrible wound-up feeling of not being able to eat.

It isn't even as if you can have a few to take the edge off Sad

GentleOtter · 12/02/2011 19:07

Do the Heimlich Manoeuvre on him in case he chokes on his beans.

BertieBasset · 12/02/2011 19:08

I hate selfishness like this!! Have precisely what you want and stuff cooking for him (if you usually do) for the next couple of days

Mists · 12/02/2011 19:09

I agree with GentleOtter. Heimlich. Whether he is choking or not. Just in case Grin

Original poster
Bogeyface · 12/02/2011 19:12

thanks guys, I might get something later.

thisisyesterday, he would need to help me cook it and there is no way on Gods green earth I will be asking him to do that. If he cant be arsed to offer to make me something there is no way I will ask him to. I will order something delivered on his card!

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nickytwotimes · 12/02/2011 19:12

do grown adults really act like this with their loved one? Confused

SecretNutellaFix · 12/02/2011 19:15

best option for you bogeyface.

Enjoy your takeaway. And refuse to share.

spidookly · 12/02/2011 19:17

He couldn't even make a few extra beans and a couple of extra slices of toast?

What a shithead.

I mean that. These are the small, but very important, things that tell you who a person is.

This person is mean, self-centred, inconsiderate, thoughtless and unkind.

I would not want to spend my life with someone who would make themselves beans on toast and not even ask me if I wanted any.

Well actually, I do spend my life with someone who would never ask me if I wanted beans on toast, but that is because he is prepared to accommodate and indulge my implacable hatred of baked beans.

You are pregnant? And this is how he treats you?

Jesus.

That is so unbelievably shit.

I bet you'll get past this, but don't forget.

At some point too many unkindnesses in the bank will mean you might think about changing your living situation.

pigletmania · 12/02/2011 19:17

Cant you not eat some sausages, egg and bacon yourself, the bacon keeps for some time, and sausages go in the freezer.

Boohooyou · 12/02/2011 19:20

God what a selfish twat !
I hope he chokes on them aswell and has a good life insurance policy!

Original poster
Bogeyface · 12/02/2011 19:30

Its weird because in most things he is very caring.

He will tell me to sit down and he will take over when I am tidying up or doing laundry when he gets in from work, or tell me before he leaves for work to leave jobs for him to do later etc. He will get the kids to help out so I dont have to do much. He really can be very thoughtful and considerate.

But for some reason, food is a blind spot. When it comes to getting something to eat he can be very "I'm alright Jack". Like he will get a plate of cheese and biscuits for supper and offer me one then moan if I want another one, yet he wont offer to get me a few when he is making them.

I dont know why he is so good about everything else, but such a wanker about food. He has never done anything so obviously selfish as this before though. He asked me earlier if I had eaten and I said no, so he knows I havent had anything.

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ApocalypseCheeseToastie · 12/02/2011 19:33

Make his favourite tea

When he comes home tell him his tea's in the fridge.

have raw ingredients for HIS tea in the fridge waiting for him.

Did this to dp when he was being particularly twattish a few years ago.

Original poster
Bogeyface · 12/02/2011 19:37

UPDATE!!!!!!!

He just this second walked in and said "How many sausages do you want?" :o:o

I said that i wasnt very hungry right now and he said in a faux whiney and very sheepish voice "Oh dont be an arse, I've put the grill on now!" Which I admit did make me laugh despite trying not to!

He is making a bacon sandwich for me now, and I will be having words later about his attitude to getting meals for me. He does it for the kids, just not me! Perhaps he just isnt used to this new, useless, me as I have always done, and enjoyed doing the cooking. No excuse for being a selfish twat though.

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dementedma · 12/02/2011 20:24

Oh get over yourself. in the wider scheme of things, not cooking you some beans hardly makes him Attila the Hun. If you're hungry, cook yourself something to eat!

novision · 12/02/2011 20:31

Never mess with a hungry pregnant woman.

DH made this mistake once when, whilst I was still asleep, he ate the last of the bread, AND the one remaining hot cross bun leaving for breakfast (not enough milk for cereal).

I was like an angry polar bear

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 12/02/2011 20:32

Glad he's made you something, just a thought but does he eat properly in the day? Is he coming home so hungrey he's being a knob? Alot of the arguements that dh and I have can be traced back to not having eaten.

LoveBeingADaddysGirl · 12/02/2011 20:33

Pmsl @ novision

Mists · 12/02/2011 20:35

Attila the Hun, Hitler and Genghis Khan were well known for doing this sort of thing. That's why history pre-Mumsnet has them down as being, for example, twats.

I have a recent BA Hons (40K 2 U luv HUNS) from the University of Glee to prove it.

On a more serious note, OP is finding it temporarily (and understandably) difficult to cook for herself.

Boohooyou · 12/02/2011 20:36

Think I'd still leave him! Grin

PaperView · 12/02/2011 20:50

I completelypaer misread GetOrfMoiLand's post as "Yes, order in a pizza. Fuck him and his beans in the lazy arse.