to be a bit apprehensive about becoming a grandma

[nufsed]

DD is pg with first baby and I am very excited

I'm also aware that there is a very fine line between being supportive and interfering, I can remember gently telling my own mum that she may have done things a certain way but that times had changed etc. Having read loads of threads on mums and MILs I've learned quite a lot about what new mums appreciate and what they don't - some obvious and some not so (I've had 30 years to forget what it's like).

I just want to be a tower of strength to my DD when she needs it and not an irritation at a time she can do without extra stress.

AIBU to be concerned? Any advice on what new mums need/want from their parents gratefully received.

OP, you are so lovely and such a good mum!

i hope if or when my DD has children i can be as supportive as you.

i went to stay with my mum for a week after DD was born. i had terrible post natal depression and don't really remember any of it unfortunately. my aunt came to stay at my mum's aswell so i had the two of them helping. i was a wreck, i didn't sleep or eat, i didn't like them doing anything for me or DD as i felt i should just get on with it. looking bad i was very ill and was way too hard on myself.

when i returned home my mum had to go back to work, as did my aunt, so i kind of had to deal with it and get over it. in hindsight i wish they'd have seen that i needed more support once i'd returned home...but i put on a brave face.

i don't want to worry you, just to make you aware that if your DD is acting a bit like i described above after she has given birth, she will need your support more than ever, even if she is adamant everything is fine and that she wants to get on with it alone.