to dump this "friend"?

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This happened a few days ago but it's been bugging me.

My DP has been off work with servere derpession, anxiety and panic attacks for some time.

"Friend": Is (my DP) working yet?

Me: No.

"Friend": Beggars can't be choosers you know! He better get a move on in this climate!.

Well, it was a knobhead thing to say, but maybe she just didn't think?

Does she make a habit of it?

As a one-off, no

If she makes a habit of such insensitivity though, I would be reassessing whether I wanted to give her the opportunity to make me feel bad

It is a bit insensitive but I don't really think it's worth ditching a froiend, unless you are not that close anyway.

This was a few weeks after he spent half an hour telling me how wonderful it is coming from a stable, old fashioned background.. and then asking how my parents divorce affected me. Oh well, he's probably tempting fate!

YANBU but mental health issues just don't invite the same sympathy or understanding as if he was, say, flat on his back with a leg in plaster. It's not on most people's radar and 'being depressed' is often confused with 'feeling a bit down in the mouth' and it's not done out of malice but usually out of ignorance. If you still want to be friends, maybe explain to your friend what he's suffering exactly.

Presumably he is in full possession of the facts about your DP's state of health/mind, then?

If he is and was still dim enough to come out with that crass comment then yes, I'd think twice about continuing the friendship - but if he doesn't know the full story, then he probably thinks he's being "helpful".

I'm off with stress at the moment, you would be amazed at the few numpties who have said similar to me "well, there are plenty out there who'd like to be in a job"

Oh sorry, I must have a word with myself - pull myself together, it is that easy after all

He know's that my DP has depression. I do agree that there probably is a certain amount of ignorance involved here. I'm still soddin angry though.

Some people just don't think. If your friend has never had depression he may not understand it at all. Don't blame you for being angry.