pull my dad up

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on his language

my dad comes for my sis in the mornings, this morning he was getting all irate that the door broke and was shouting lodsa stuff like 'ignorant cunts' and general shouting and my DS was present, pretty pissed off, it breaks alot but apprently this time it was my sisters fault for rushing through.I was not impressed. hes got a temper .

After he left I text him saying.

'I know you were frustrated by the door, but try not to shout and swear infront of [ds]'

Not had a reply, feel like a real bitch all of a sudden, like hes just gonna get the text and its gonna ruin his whole day/mood and it'll be my fault.

you called him out on unacceptable behaviour - who gives a flying fuck how bad he feels - next time, he should watch his language.

However, next time, you should say something at the time, instead of texting. Grow a pair.

It won't be your fault, it will be his for using that language in front your ds.

He's an adult and should have better control than to get that angry because a door broke. Why on earth would that frustrate him?

Sounds like a family-wide problem with language to me...

My FIL used to do this and I never waited till he'd gone to tell him!

I said right there and then "I don't have language like that in my house so if you want to swear dit somewhere else"

Its direspectful!

Tell him!

I obviously wouldnt swear infront my son, you are all adults that can cope with that word, not the same context,I'm sure you'll agree and C WORD>BITCH big difference IMO

Hatti- I agree I felt pretty cowardly but hes not a man to challenge, not a good reason but its the only one I have

It's totally inappropriate of him, imo.

YANBU. So many of us have huge issues in speaking out when our parents are out of order, but you have your DC to think of. Your dad will have to stay away if he can't curb his tongue. Just imagine if your DS got into trouble for swearing at school - the school might be wondering where he picked it up from.

His temper is not your responsibility, btw. He has a choice as to how he responds to you. Do NOT back down.

x posted.

You're obviously frightened by him, and this is wrong, wrong, wrong. You shouldn't be. You don't have to let him in the door at all if he's throwing his weight around.

Find a way to 'stand up to him' (ie maintain your boundaries) without feeling physically threatened or confronted by him. He has no rights on your turf.

Thanks for the replies, i am a lil intimidated, he does throw his weight around can't count how many times i've told him, but theres also the issue of DC like you all said.

update: he txt back sayin'Oh yeah sorry, you got me on that one'

sorta an apology I suppose

Glad you got the apology. Do stop being scared of him, though! He's your Dad, presumably he loves you and wouldn't want you to be scared? Unless he's a nasty piece of work in which case you have much bigger problems than swearing in front of your children.

he has had a history of it in the past, I thought he had mellowed

altinkum "and then you swear...."

BodyOfEeyore "Sounds like a family-wide problem with language to me..."

What an absolute load of bollocks!
Just because the OP uses the word bitch in a post to other adults, means it's fine for her DF to use the word cunt in front of her children? You twats!

YANBU OP, I'm glad to read that he then apologised, so well done for calling him on it, when it sounds like that was a difficult thing for you to do.

thankyou Peering

Doesn't sound like OP has a language problem to me. It is about context. Saying 'cunt' in front of a child is different to writing 'pissed' or 'bitch' on an adult forum.

YANBU.