My (much loved) third baby was the result of a 2 year long campaign of persuasion by my husband. My reluctance was due to the fact that the other 2 were awful sleepers and I became quite low. I knew a third would stretch me to the limit and our finances too. However, I didnt want my husband to have regrets in his old age and as an only child he has always yearned for a large family. He is a fantastic, hands on Dad. (I dont want this to sound as though dc3 was unwanted by me, just that if I hadonly had myself to consider, I would have been too scared of the consequences to go ahead. Now she's here, I cant believe how lucky we are(tho knackered and skint!)).I did make my husband promise to have a vascectomy though (I cant take the pill and dc1 was a happy accident resulting from failed condom).However, nearly 2 years later, he has still not even had an appointment to discuss it with the dr and I am furious. AIBU? I cant relax enough to have sex as I cant risk another pregnancy and having experienced failed contraception in the past, it's all I can think of. Also, there is now this massive issue between us and I am angry whenever he even wants to cuddle me because I feel I must stop it going further and then he is annoyed.