to think my wife would prefer being with her mother than me????

[Billy19]

hi im starting to think my wife would sooner spend more time with her mother than with me, she spends all her time at her mothers and its getting to the point were i have had enough weve got a son who is 16 months old. heres an example of whats happened today (SO FAR!!!)

7.30 am phone call from mil
8.00 am phone call from mil
8.30 am phone call from mil
9.00 am mil visits!
10.00 get phone call from mil "what time are you coming around???"
11.00 partner and daughter go round!!
now this is ok but every single day!!!! im talk 10-15 times a day phone calls were are you, what u doing etc!! has anybody got any advice?

yabu.

your wifes mother probebly looks after her a bit, we all need looking after sometimes as we spend all our time looking after our children.

Its company for your wife...you could always ask her to have your child so you and your wife could spend some time together

Well... it's good that they are close, but if you don't see enough of her as a result then that's a problem. Have you said anything to your wife about this? Do you get on with your MIL?

That's a bit weird.

It sounds like the apron strings are a'pullin.

How old is your wife?
Does she have any friends?
Is she lonely while you are at work? Or are you there all day every day too and she is going out and leaving you alone?

Talk to your wife. Ask her why she does it. She can tell you better than any of us.

Billy, I'm guessing your wife doesn't like you

"its good that they are close" don't know why but that made me laugh

Are you at home too OP?

I'd find it a bit stifling tbh but then I don't have a close family.

It does seem excessive.

If it was my dh calling his dm at that level, I'd be and wanting him to cut the apron strings.

YANBU, but didn't you get any good advice when you posted about your MIL being constantly on your case last week?

are you not out at work Billy?

i think the number of phone calls does seem excessive if it genuinely is that much every day

although is mother on her own? anxious? in need of company? particularly old/unwell?

I spend far more time with my mother since I had children than I ever did before.. it's just something a lot of people want to do.

obviously if it's going on during times when you would like to do stuff just with your wide and daughter then it's something you need to talk to her about, but if it's just during the day and doesn't affect you then i think it's up to them!

hang on, on sunday your child was 14 months old... now he is 16months old?

Flisspaps beat me to it.

OP have you sat your wife down and spoke to her about this?

Time Warp?

sorry, to refer to the other thread again... but have I read it correctly that your fiancee/wife works with her mum?

thisisyesterday Is that what people mean when they say "they grow up so fast these days"?

must be fissplaps! lol