To not want to ''embrace the mess''?

[poshsinglemum]

I posted a while back about how much I hate cleaning up the mess that dd creates. I was told to embrace the mess. I have tried but I just can't do it. sob!

So tidy up then! I don't like constant mess - don't mind toys out etc during the day but they all go away at bedtime

YANBU. I'd love to be able to "embrace the mess" and generally do less cleaning and tidying. I've tried but if I'm not on top of things to a reasonable extent then I find it makes me feel quite depressed.

Finding a happy medium is the way to go, IMHO. There's no point in tidying the toys away every 5 minutes but just leaving them for a week is no good (for me) either.

do what my mum did. She was sick of the toys in the morning before school. She said that the next time she wakes up to the chaos then she will through all the toys in the bin.

Guess what the next day we called her bluff, came home from school and all toys were gone.

3 months later we found them in her cupboard as she forgot all about them. i did work for a while.

i fully embrace the mess in our house and it certainly makes life easier :)
But i can understand how some people hate it.

How old is DD? can you start a reward scheme for her tidying her own mess?

How old is she?
DD - just 3 - tidies up lots of her own mess. Ie Puzzle has to go back into box after she's finished with it & before she get's anything else out.

She tries top get involved with the wiping but I take care of that really.
She puts her coat, shoes etc away, dirty washing into washing basket. Just persistant training but it pay off. I think she will end up being a much tidier person than I am

I 'embraced the mess' for years. Didn't just embrace it in fact but snuggled up to it constantly. For some reason since my ds arrived (now 8 wks) I have become a cleaning demon (just finished washing the fridge which was disgusting). But I usually clean betwwen his midnight and 3 am feeds - he's asleep, dh is asleep, I can just get on with it. Am now much happiier - didn't realise how much it must have been on my mind. Will certainly stump up for a cleaner when mat leave finishes.