To have another baby?

[angelicapickles]

I have a wonderful DD... She is 4 months old (on Tuesday)

I want to be able to help her out in life - financially, with time, with everything we planned!

We have 2 bedrooms... And the state of the housing Market is... Well! Still a state!! So I don't think we'll be able to sell for a while.

I dont want my DD to go without anything - time and attention wise - from me. At the moment we do a lot of activities and she's still so young, there's so much more to do!! If I'm pregnant and then have a new tiny baby is it unfair to her?

But I do want another and it's getting harder and harder not to start trying!

AIBU?

do it

Yes do it, I was an only child - boring !!!

What they lack from you, is made up for by having a brother/sister

OP, had you originally planned just one child and now are surprised you'd like another? That happens.

Do it! :o

PS Babies don't NEED to have their own bedroom. Children can share for years before the bickering becomes unbearable.

Children can share rooms.

Personally we had to wait until there was a big enough age gap that childcare costs wouldn't be an issue. potential #2 is an option now that DS is 3. We have a 2.5 bed house (the 0.5 is an office as DP works from home) so a second child would have to share a room.

The only problem I forsee with this is in about years time when DS needs his own space.

So we're having another.

Ideally I would have had another baby very quickly, so DS would never have even really known life without a sibling. For health/financial reasons it would have been spectacularly stupid to have a baby while DS was tiny. I love my job and wouldn't give it up for anything, so baby 2 had to wait.

Hopefully he/she is floating about in the ether, waiting for us to get our act together :)

The only problem I forsee with this is in about 5 years time when DS needs his own space.

Go for it. We were always playing catch up with kids and number of bedrooms, now (many years later) we have more than we need. Things change - we would certainly never have ended up with our wonderful three if we were worried about space.

Yanbu... go for it if you can cope emotionally and financially. My dd is 5 months on Sunday and I can't imagine another dc right now. What does your dh think?

Wait till she is crawling around wrecking your home and demanding constant attention (you have another 2/3 months grace), this broodiness will soon pass. Not that it isn't a wonderful stage too as they become so engaging and interactive but still, it does make you think "Blimey, couldn't imagine two of them, not for a good while."

as for own room my ds have shared for years and recentley we moved and a year ago they had chance to have own rooms and nope they opted to stay sharing spare room now a study

The closer they are in age, the easier it will be for them to share a bedroom as they will be at similar stages.

Also, it's only an issue as they get closer to teenage years. Do you have space in the rest of the house for two DCs to be able to play separately? Could you convert your loft, if not into another bedroom, at least into a play room/second living room?

Time wise, do you have family near by who could take one of your yet to be 2DCs out to allow you to have 1:1 time with each of them?

I always said I wanted a 4 year age gap due to childcare costs and wanting to have the time to give full attention to each DC when they were toddlers, but DS is 13 months now and I'm getting very broody...

We are having another baby our third, even though we don't officially have the space and may not for some time. It will be difficult space wise for sometime, but I know I will regret it if we left it too late biologically. I would go for it, personally.