AIBU to feed my baby?

[scentednappyhag]

Not a formula/breast debate you'll be pleased to hear

My DD has been a bit erratic with her feeds for the past two weeks or so, taking an ounce and then wanting to wait for an hour to drink the rest etc. I'm not worried, I've put it down to a growth spurt, or possibly inheriting my munchie nature

But...

A number of people have told me that I'm wrong for giving into her, and if she doesn't take it all, then i shouldn't give it so soon after. The phrase 'Rod for your own back' is being bandied about all over the place (don't even get me started on what else this phrase has been used for ).

Now, being my first child I could be completely wrong, but surely i should feed her when she's hungry? 'Coz she gets bloody noisy if I don't

IMO, if she's hungry feed her, if she's not hungry she'll let you know.

Sounds like you've got your head screwed on, do what you feel is best and ignore any comments

YANBU. Babies need to be fed when they are hungry. They don't understand clocks.

YANBU. My babies (all bf) did this sometimes, and so did my good friends baby, (ff) who I looked after quite a bit.

If she only takes an ounce, she probably isn't hungry just yet. If I am not ready for lunch, I wait an hour and eat then. I don't force myself to eat something I don't want and then feel hungry until supper.

Your instincts are to be trusted!

YANBU. I hate that phrase too. I feel like saying stick your bloody rod when the sun don't shine.

YANBU

As for the 'rod for your back' comments just tell them...

My rod
My back
My choice

Thank you ladies Everytime i hear those bloody words, it makes me second guess myself and feel like a failure... STILL hormonal! It's nice to know I have mumsnet backup!

Another for feed when hungry.

They soon settle themselves into their own routine.

Let us know how you get on telling people where to stick their rods

Feed her when she wants it, I do and I much prefer a few extra feeds to a screaming cross hungry baby. As ChaoticAngel said, its your rod (if there is one) and your back.
Tell anyone with an un-asked-for opinion to butt out! :)

YANBU. My DD has always fed like this - she mostly has half a bottle and comes back for the rest later. Occassionally she will drink a whole one, so she can do it. It has never bothered me. My mother thinks that she might develop better appetite control than the rest of the family as she is never worried that she will be starved and can safely stop when she has had enough. I think that feeding on demand is a good idea for all babies, breast or formula/bottle fed. I am not tolerant of a noisy baby when I can solve it - which is what you have done.

Oh, another lovely bit of advice about it has been 'She's a baby, so she should fit around your shedule, not the other way round.'.
I would love for someone to explain to me how you discuss this with a three month old :/ She's clearly a genius, but still...!

YANBuU - you are taking your cues from her baby. Babies who are fed on demand rarely overfeed. And babies differ - some are guzzlers and some are snackers.

You know your baby best so ignore!!

You can kind of engineer them to fit in a little bit, like the school run/going out for the day, but it's listening to them when they're saying something.

My DD2 has just started to talk, but we've understood what she's been saying since she was tiny

she's way too little to be spoilt!

you're not making a rod for your own back at all. you're feeding your child when she is hungry.

my DD was exactly the same. they get into a routine and settle a few of months down the line.