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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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to leave the house as a total pigsty?

19 replies

kittycat37 · 10/02/2011 19:54

It is bad.

DDs just gone to bed.

It's carnage. Hideous.

We have a cleaner (2hrs a week). She's coming tomorrow, but I'm embarrassed for her to see it like this.

I'm shattered from work and have full day tomorrow and will be up with the baby tonight (she wakes every 2 hrs, still, at 10 mnths).

All I want to do is have dinner and go to bed.

DH is working til 11pm. He was looking afters DDs all day while I was at work (he's let the place turn into a hovel this week but I can't blame him as he does the childcare all day and works evenings with no spare time).

AIBU to leave it? It is TRULY disgusting.

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GetOrfMoiLand · 10/02/2011 19:56

Can you not spend 10 minutes picking up the main debris, and hurling it into the garage or something, leaving clean surfaces for the cleaner to clean.

You can then sort out the piles of shite which you have hidden at the weekend.

traceybath · 10/02/2011 19:56

I couldn't - would spend 30 mins doing a quick tidy so cleaner can get on with cleaning tomorrow as 2 hours isn't long if she's got to tidy as well.

stoppinchingthedummy · 10/02/2011 19:56

its not unreasonable to leave it BUT you will probably feel better if u spend 10 minutes just whip round doing the worst bit :) Lucky u having a cleaner i say ...I wish we could afford one!!

Numberfour · 10/02/2011 19:56

Are there rats running around?
Poo nappies lying open stinking out the place?
Mould in leftover cups of coffee?

If not, leave it and go to bed.

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kittycat37 · 10/02/2011 20:00

Ha ha Numberfour - no rats, poo or actual mould, bt lots of crumbs on the carpet, toys everywhere, washing up, piles of clothes to be put away....

It's not fair on the poor cleaner, I'm going to do a mega intense 10 mins now

Here goes.....

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Boozilla · 10/02/2011 20:02

Then a large glass of vino when you finish I think!

littlebylittle · 10/02/2011 20:03

Yanbu but you'll feel better after a quick tidy.

traceybath · 10/02/2011 20:08

Oh crumbs and clothes to be put away are fine.

My cleaner does lots of tidying too but comes for over 4 hours.

verytellytubby · 10/02/2011 20:11

20 minutes tidy will make you feel so much better and the cleaner can clean properly.

zookeeper · 10/02/2011 20:12

Leave a note telling her to dump everything on the floor in one big pile somewhere , You can tackle the pile when you get in tomorrow

FabbyChic · 10/02/2011 20:13

Can you not learn after the cleaner has been that clearing up after yourself is by far the best way to live?

As you get a sinkful of washing up wash up? Or as you fill the dishwasher actually put it on? How hard is it to put dirty washing in a washing basket and fill the washing machine as you come home from work? It really is not hard to have a clean house, it is about just clearing up after yourself.

You don't even have to hoover, or dust, just keep the place tidy. Isn't hard and it can be done even working full time and looking after children.

Surely you can't actually enjoy live like that?

Maud2011 · 10/02/2011 20:14

Oh dear. My house is way too much of a pigsty for me to comment without bias and I don't even have a young family to speak of, I just hate housework, but...

In my opinion YANBU. You need your sleep - as much of it as you can get with the wee one keeping you up - and that's more important than cleaning, which after all will wait.

I think what I would do in your situation is leave a note for the cleaner or phone her, and explain what you've been up against this week. Maybe ask her to concentrate on a couple of jobs in parts of the house you feel the least sensitive/embarrassed about?

traceybath · 10/02/2011 20:16

Golly thats so helpful Fabby.

Am sure the OP is normally on top of stuff but sounds like her life is pretty full on with work and you know not getting any sleep.

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kittycat37 · 10/02/2011 20:57

Done it - feel better, It is a lot better.

Thanks for the moral support.

Fabby - thanks for the lecture, not necessary I assure you. I tend to prefer playing with my daughters when I get in from work rather than ignoring them to do the housework. And no, you cannot play or interact properly with a 10month old and 3 yr old whilst simultaneously clearing up a whole day's mess created by others when you were at work. But hey, each to their own.

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jenga079 · 10/02/2011 21:14

FabbyChic? Nice choice of nickname DP. I'd never have guessed it but I'm assuming it must be DP because it sounds just like him.

I wish I found housework so easy. The only way I get any cleaning done at the moment is to force myself to do it during the ad breaks on telly! Three minutes slots is all I can manage in current pregnant exhaustion!

OP, well done, I hope you're now pouring yourself a nice glass of

baskingseals · 10/02/2011 21:18

op
YANBU
playing with your dds beats hoovering everytime.

Amieesmum · 10/02/2011 21:35

You got a rug?? Get sweeping!

sunnydelight · 10/02/2011 21:58

Depends on your cleaner. Back in the days (sob) when I had a cleaner the best one made it really clear from the start that she was there to clean, not tidy.

Even if she'll do it, if she spends her 2 hours tidying up then she won't have time to do the proper cleaning - I know I would prefer to chuck everything in cupboards if necessary than not have her have time to clean the kitchen/bathroom.

northerngirl41 · 10/02/2011 22:27

I have NEVER understood the concept of cleaning before the cleaner arrives... I mean, I know some cleaners won't do any tidying (and they wouldn't be employed in this house!) but the cleaner already knows you are messy. That's why you hired her.

Presumably she has scrubbed your toilet, picked hairs out your plughole, and seen the carnage of kids/pets/husbands leave behind - so this is not the time to coyly pretend that she needs to simply waft some Pledge in the air gently and all is beautiful.

To be fair though, two hours is a bit optimistic for utter chaos. Usually when that happens I just leave a note apologising and suggesting what she should tackle and what I can ignore for a bit. Non-negtiables for me are hoovering and the bathrooms as I figure bedrooms are out the way and the kitchen gets wiped over anyway whilst I'm working in it and the living room is....um... lived in.

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