To be a bit upset by this...

[NinjaTurtle]

First time posting in AIBU, but here goes...
Bit of background, my friend and I have been friends, more or less best friends for 7 years now. Haven't seen too much of each other over the last couple of years because of circumstances (I was away at university), but have still spoken on the phone and seen each other occasionally, last time being just before Christmas, and we exchanged gifts.

I had DD in august, she was texted about half an hour after she was born to let her know, I also rang her from the hospital the next day for a chat whilst DD slept and I had no visitors. Anyway, she was pregnant, and had her baby on monday night. She has not yet let me know that she has had baby, or let me know that they're both well, I only know she has had the baby because I found out on facebook (I know, I know!), via people writing 'congratulations' on her page. I have sent her a text, but no reply, I guess she's busy!

Considering we have been pretty close over the years, and have the same circle of friends (she hasn't informed any of these), AIBU to wish that she had just dropped me a text to let me know they were both ok?

YANBU, if it is the case that she has contacted other people and specifically not you. It might mean that she does not view you in the same way that you view her.

However, it might be that her mum/sister/DH has told people and they've posted on fb and she herself has not contacted anyone yet.

Or it might be that the birth was difficult and she's feeling awful and not up to it.

I would reserve judgement for now and see how things go.

I can understand you feel a bit slighted but I guess if she hasn't let any one else know either then it's not personal. I expect grand parents and dad have been spreading the word. If I were you I'd send a card and gift or just card if you rather give gift in person. I'm sure she will be in touch very soon.

Ps with you on bloody Facebook!!!!!

stay calm Ninja, it could well work out ok

I can understand that you feel hurt, but don't desert her in her time of need. As you said, she's 'busy' and maybe isn't necessarily coping all that well, or just enjoying the baby too much to text. Since no one else has had a text either I wouldn't be too insulted.

When I had my recent baby, my dsis pored on fb for me.
It was nearly a week before I felt up to ringing people.
Could this be the case?

I can see why you are upset-but just because you contacted her quickly, doesn´t mean that she has to do the same.

We only contacted parents & let them take it from there.

Aagh. Not pored - posted

Aagh. Not pored - posted

YABU, she's just had a baby so surely has better things to do than sending texts to everyone she knows.

Thanks for the replies, maybe I am being slightly unreasonable, but the last time I spoke to her, she said she would let me know when baby arrived. She has replied to a comment left by someone on facebook since the baby arrived. I just feel that I'm not important to her anymore, she told lots of people the name of the baby beforehand, but didn't tell me. I also let her know that I had a bag of baby clothes for her, and she said she would come over and pick them up sometime, but she hasn't. I feel as though ive done something to upset her, but I'm sure I haven't.

The baby is just tiny. I wouldn't worry. I couldn't wait to call everyone when our daughter was born, but that's just me. Not everyone is like that.

YABU. She is probably a right mess after having her first child, I was. I told my sister the news and left the rest to her.

I did still go on FB when I was awake at 2am.

She may well be the same. It's very, very early days for her, and her head is probably all over the place.

I think you should text her a congrats message.