to say that if YOU have unreplied-to invites.....

[ashamedandconfused]

.......REPLY TODAY and dont be so rude.....

DD is having a party next week - a quite pricey activity at a venue, need to know numbers/invite replacement guests etc

• invites been out 2 weeks - one child still not replied despite being asked every day by DD

are they waiting for a better offer? trying to work out childcare/travel arrangements?

at least have the manners to get in touch and give us some idea of when you can confirm.

Grrrrrrr!!!!!

I went through this a couple of weeks ago with DS bithday - next time I'm not going to give them the venue details until they reply!

YANBU!

I hate it when people don't reply.
I now put on invites....it I haven't heard by ** date I shall assume child is not attending.
It's bloody rude, especially as nowadays there's mobile numbers on the invites so it's just a quick text needed.

People are buggers for this.

I threw a party for my eldest's 10th.

I invited about 60 odd kids.

Got maybe 20 or 30 replies.

about 50 kids showed up but some of them came with siblings, so there were probably closer to 70

Good job I bought extra goodie bags!

flipping heck, Hec! are you the pied piper or something?? i am a teacher and even i draw the line at 25 kids for a party!

I am dreading this situation as DS gets older - people are so shite about this now! Even for his 3rd birthday, we had a joint party in the park with another child and hardly anyone bothered their arses to turn up, despite saying previously "oh yes, we'll come" - no phonecalls, nothing - lots of food left over, what a surprise

I do realise that things happen - but with mobile numbers available etc., why can't people just send a quick text??

It's always the same. If its in a hall and you are doing your own food etc its not so bad if an extra few your weren't expecting turn up (pita for the party bags tho') but when it is at a pay per head place it really gets on my norks.

Hectate, I want just reading how many kids were at your partyu!

Well, he hadn't had a party ever since I threw one his first year of school, invited his whole class and ONE person showed up.

So after we moved area, and I was ready to try again, I really went for it

I hired a big hall, a disco, a massive buffet going the whole of one wall and a guy who was a fun scientist. He did an hour of great science experiments with the kids, which they loved, then I opened the buffet while the disco was on. Had competitions and prizes and everything. It was a bloody good party and talked about for months.

It made up, in some small way, for the pain I felt when only one person showed up for his first party. And practically none of them said they weren't coming and nobody bothered to apologise. And I am firmly convinced that it was because of his autism. Bastards.

Oh that's so sad that only 1 person turned up.
And downright bloody rude.

oh yes. I cried and cried.

Luckily, my son didn't actually care. He didn't understand.

I was apoplectic. I have never forgiven them, any of them.

I don't blame you, Hec - that is outrageous behaviour. :( and for you even now.

Aw hectate I dont blame you, totally out of order. Sorry x (loads of emotin faces here, cant do them as im on my phone)

Hecate this is the reason I have yet to do a party for DS1 and get genuinely teary at the thought of having to organise one.

He's 3.6 and this year I will have to get over myself and do it - but the thought of him being rejected like that cuts me up.

So sorry that happened to you.

Hecate - a friend of mine had a very similar situation. Her dd1 has had problems socialising and settling into school - she doesn't have a diagnosis as such, though.

One year, her mum invited all of the girls in her class to her dd1's birthday party, and only one turned up. Luckily she had invited me and the three dses, and a couple of mutual friends and their dc, so the girl got a reasonably good party and some presents, but I was so sad for her and angry with the parents and girls who had snubbed her like that.

YANBU for that kind of party, at all.

However yesterday I got invited to a Miche Bag party (google it, dare you) (also am on phone so a link would be a PITA, sorry) and since it's from an acquaintance, not a friend, and is a blatant 'let's get the numbers up so I get more free shite' invite, then no, I won't be replying.

Ah, it was a long time ago now. The anger has faded slightly

I do sometimes have the urge to start a thread saying
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"If you had a child at X school, Y1, in 20XX, then click here."

YOU BASTARRRRRRRRRRRD!

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But not often.

I think the problem is people just don't really know what they are meant to be doing that far in advance and don't like to reply til they are 100% sure they can go. Nothing more disappointing in thinking someone is coming and then they can't.

I would always give out invitations 2 weeks before the party. Any more than this and they get forgotten about. I would do the RSVP date as about 5 days before the party date, however sometimes this needs to be slightly earlier if the 5th day before doesn't fall on a school day as most people will just RSVP in the playground. For example a party on a Thursday or Friday would need the RSVP date to be the Friday before.