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AIBU?

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Original poster

To wait for my daughter to wake up in the car park?

31 replies

NorfolkNChance · 10/02/2011 12:22

Apparently I am according to a woman shopping at Sainsbugs.

Got into the car park and parked up (yes in a P&C space - they were ALL free) and saw that my 16 month DD was fast asleep in the back so settled down to listen to the radio and MN when someone knocked on my car window. I opened it and smiled at the woman standing there and asked how I could help. She said that I shouldn't just be sitting there and use up a space if I wasn't shopping.

We had been there for about 10 minutes at this time and the car park was hardly full. I just gaped at her and pointed out DD who was snoring and said I was waiting for her to wake up and as the carpark allowed you 3 hours parking I didn't see the problem.

She then muttered that she would wake the child so not to "hog" a space. None of the other P&C spaces were used at this point.

So was IBU to wait there?

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sparklyblack · 10/02/2011 12:24

As none of the other P&C spaces were in use, I think YANBU.

If they were then that would be different.

LessNarkyPuffin · 10/02/2011 12:25

Seriously she knocked on you window? Crazy lady.

Perfectly reasonable when there were other spaces free. And how would she know that you weren't waiting for someone who was shopping?

cakeywakey · 10/02/2011 12:26

Of course not, you were just unfortunate to come across a busybodying idiot. There are a lot of them about

MaryBS · 10/02/2011 12:26

YANBU. Sounds like someone has an over-inflated sense of her own officiousness!

JamieLeeCurtis · 10/02/2011 12:26

I don't think YWBU under any circumstances. If someone tried to persuade me to wake my sleeping baby I would ignore them

Smile and wave!

headfairy · 10/02/2011 12:26

yanbu, there were other spaces so she didn't have a leg to stand on.

slartybartfast · 10/02/2011 12:27

how very dare she

cakeywakey · 10/02/2011 12:27

I always ache to say 'Who died and put you in charge' when someone busybodies at me. Never had the nerve to do it. Yet.

JamieLeeCurtis · 10/02/2011 12:28

never wake a sleeping baby

MorticiaAddams · 10/02/2011 12:28

As none of the other spaces were used then no but you would have been if it had been busy.

slartybartfast · 10/02/2011 12:31

noisy soup !

Original poster

NorfolkNChance · 10/02/2011 12:33

That's the thing if the spaces hadn't been free I would have moved to another part of the carpark. Likewise if it had been superbusy or Christmas Eve but it is a rainy Monday and the store was very very quiet!

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NorfolkNChance · 10/02/2011 12:33

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VinegarTits · 10/02/2011 12:39

i would have just woke the kid and did my shopping but i dont have the time or the patience to sit around carparks, and think this 'dont wake a sleeping baby' thing is increadibly precious

JamieLeeCurtis · 10/02/2011 12:59

Vinegar - some babies are a bloody nightmare when they are woken. Some babies take so much persuasion to have a nap that when they do it is a blessed relief. DS1 was like this. DS2 was not

SixtyFootDoll · 10/02/2011 12:59

YANBU who made her the boss? But like VT says I would have just got on with my shopping!

SixtyFootDoll · 10/02/2011 12:59

YANBU who made her the boss? But like VT says I would have just got on with my shopping!

VinegarTits · 10/02/2011 13:04

if you have a baby that is that bad at being woke up then dont take it shopping when its are due a nap, or do your shopping online

why would anyone want to sit around in a carpark, couldnt be arsed with that

JamieLeeCurtis · 10/02/2011 13:07

Not much fun, I admit, Vinegar. I did not have a computer when DS1 was a baby. Certainly use did once DS2 came along

radiohelen · 10/02/2011 13:14

YANBU My ds doesn't sleep well and he takes an awful lot of persuading so when he does drift off we let him. It's not precious. It's self defence. If I let him sleep he's a much nicer child and I am a nicer mummy.
He is also a total nightmare if you wake him mid sleep. It's not pleasant at all.
I find people who have babies with no sleeping problems tend to be very dismissive of my pain. Walk a mile in my shoes.... and don't leave my baby howling for hours shut in a room in a bid to get him to go for a nap.
As the OP was in a nearly empty car park the woman was clearly being a stickybeak. Ignore her.

LessNarkyPuffin · 10/02/2011 13:24

You say sit around in a car park I say 10 minutes of perfect peace

FindingStuffToChuckOut · 10/02/2011 13:25

how did you not poke her in the eye????

or at least just wound the window up & blanked her?

YANBU - My DD is bloody foul if intentionally woken from her afternoon nap. It's not worth it. I've never been a 'don't wake the baby' type, and she can sleep through any noise at all but I would try to avoid waking DD in the afternoons, or I'd have 30 minutes of hell (she's an angel most of the time really).

alexandra65 · 10/02/2011 13:31

I cant beleive that nosy old bat.

So what would she have done if you were talking to someone on the phone, is that 'wasting a space' altho its illegal to talk on in control of a car ???

You should have run her over !

baskingseals · 10/02/2011 13:33

yanbu

done it myself
with chocolate as well

SummerRain · 10/02/2011 13:35

Vinigar... I never woke dd as she rarely slept so any time she did doze off without a fight was precious. I never woke ds1 as he's a screaming, whining, hysterical nightmare when woken (still is at 4!). ds2 I often wake as he's fine as long as he's had at least 10 minutes and sleeps well for us.

Depends on the child and it's the parents decision to make.

OP... YWNBU... silly cow had no right to stick her nose in!

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