hi
this is slightly complex but here goes:
My BIL and his wife (DH bro and Sis in law) are throwing a massive party later in the year for a 'significant' birthday. They are the same age. They have booked a venue and want a themed fancy dress party. So it's their party and their money, I've no problem with that. BUT they don't want children at the party and ours are 5 and 3.Their children are teenagers. We have told them it will be very difficult for us to come because we live in another part of the country to the family, so we don't see grandparents and aunties/uncles often enough for them to look after the children (who are not the easiest tbh) overnight.
Anyway BIL and SIL have thrown a massive strop that we might not go. We were practically ordered to find out if my DH's and BIL's father (my FIL) would look after them, even though BIL and his father are not on speaking terms. SIL said 'so what if DD cries for a few hours, she'll be fine?'. They are also angry with DH's mum as they say she is using her health problems (she has heart failure) as an excuse not to go.
I don't know if this matters but BIL and SIL have got lots more money than the rest of DH family, which they've earnt, good for them. But they are behaving like spoilt kids at the minute.
My DH is now saying he will go on his own to prevent (another) family row. My BIL is apparently hurt because he is 'very family oriented'. That's really not the impression I've got for the last 20 years. TBH I don't want to go now even if we could get child care.
AIBU and WWYD?
spanglemum