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To be angry at dh

17 replies

Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:29

I honestly don't know if I am over reacting but I am furious.

Went to parents evening and left dh at home with dd1 age 12 and ds age 10. I took dd2 with me, she is 17 months. When I came out of the school the pram wheel was broke so I phoned dh to drive down and pick us up. It is only a 5 minute drive. When he got there he said we had to be quick as he hadn't told the dc he was nipping out!

Now I don't mind the elder two being left alone for 10 minutes but to not even tell them is out of order imo. Dd was panicking when we got back because she didn't know what had happened to him.

Am I being ott to be cross with him?

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bupcakesandcunting · 09/02/2011 18:30

Depends what being cross entails for you.

If you've bawled him out and made him cry like a toddler YABU. If you've given him a bit of stick and rolled your eyes at him then YANBU.

scurryfunge · 09/02/2011 18:31

I would be cross with him for not telling them - and agree that 10 minutes alone would not be a problem. Why didn't he tell them?

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Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:32

I haven't shouted at him i just wondered if aibu to be angry in the first place

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Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:32

Scurry, he said he didn't think!

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Spidermama · 09/02/2011 18:33

YABU. It's a minor oversight. You were five minutes away.

Perhaps you are actually annoyed because the pushchair broke which is stressful.

WriterofDreams · 09/02/2011 18:33

Why on earth didn't he tell them he was going out? I think it was just a very silly and odd thing to do but there was no real harm done so no point in falling out about it. In your position I'd just calmly say it's important to let the DCs know when he's going out in future so they don't get upset.

scurryfunge · 09/02/2011 18:34

We need a buffoon emoticon.

Changeisagoodthing · 09/02/2011 18:34

10 and 12 is fine.

scurryfunge · 09/02/2011 18:35

For DH that is Grin

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Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:37

It's true that I was already stressed. I know it's not exactly crime of the century but I thinks it's actually really mean and thoughtless to just go out and not tell them.

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Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:37

Glad you clarified that scurry Grin

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Ragwort · 09/02/2011 18:38

I don't think its anything to get seriously worked up about - I would be more annoyed about having to take the 17 month old with you to a parents evening - why didn't you leave the baby with your DH?

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Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:41

I wanted to take the baby with me as I use to work at the school and was going to show her off to some of my colleagues who wanted to see her.

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Memoo · 09/02/2011 18:42

I've just realised that I don't even know how old my own child is! She isn't 17 months til next week

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ohnono · 09/02/2011 18:45

YANBU - fine to leave them for 10 minutes but NOT without telling them!

taintedpaint · 09/02/2011 19:14

Oh yes, this is definitely not an issue about leaving them, it's about doing it without telling them, which I think Memoo has been clear about.

I would've been angry too, so YANBU IMO, and your DD's reaction says it all.

I can't even imagine in what realm he thought that was okay tbh.

Acinonyx · 09/02/2011 19:22

I'd be pretty angry at the not telling - that is seriously stupid Hmm Kids don't expect parents to just vanish. Totally YANBU.

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