to invite DD's friend and her mum round for tea given that her mum is a SW

[TruthSweet]

and I have had Social Services 'made aware' of me in the past?

She's a really nice woman and very friendly, her daughter is ever so sweet and DD1 loves playing with her DD so it's not because I dislike SW (I've never met one before) but should I tell her I have a file with the one piece of paper in it? Is she under any obligation to not fraternise with people who have come to the attention of SS? I really wouldn't want to get her into trouble or for her to be in an ethical dilemma.

It sounds really bad written down that I've got a SS file It wasn't for neglect or abuse but because I have PND-OCD.

When I was in the throws of it when DD2 was small my HV wrote to SS about my condition, so that if I went of the deep end and went to the Mental Health Crisis Team feeling suicidal or unable to cope with the intrusive thoughts of harm coming to my DCs, they would know that I wasn't a danger to my children and the 'visions' I was having of harm coming to DDs wasn't wishful thinking but 'merely' intrusive thoughts.

Should I tell her if I see her in the morning so she can pull out with out dragging her daughter away or leave it and hope she doesn't get into trouble somehow? I can't phone her as I don't have her no. or her email.

Any advice gratefully accepted (including 'Pull yourself together' and grammar corrections )

lord no, no need to tell her. but if you did, i'm sure she wouldn't bat an eyelid.

if your case were ever to be referred to her team she would have to let people know you have a relationship, and therefore she cannot work with you. there are strict rules forbidding access to files of friends/family.

if you are worried, tell her, asking her to keep your confidence and explaining you didnt want to put her in an awkward position. Hard for you to confide in an aquaintance, but you will enjoy the time more if you get if off your chest. you might make a new friend too , and so will your DD.

Whoah!
You are overthinking this. She is visiting you in a personal capacity, and has no reason or business to look into your file, which she doesn't even know exists.

Stop feeling guilty and doing yourself down. You are not a risk to anyone's DCs so please try to relax and enjoy her company/friendship.

You have no need to discuss it at all.

Now pull yourself together. And it's throes

You don't need to tell her.

TruthSweet, i think it's upto you whether you tell her or not, im a student social worker with a sketchy background with pretty bad pre and post natal depression that caused problems in my past im also friends with people who are known to social services and it really hasn't made any difference. Social workers are supposed to be non judgemental and i very much doubt she would run out of your house with her child in tow so my advice is don't panic and do whatever feels best. not sure if this is of any help.

Don't fret pet whats happened with you in the past is in the PAST and apart from anything else it's none of her buiness if you wouldn't tell a mum who wasn't a SW then don't her it's just a play date x Hope it goes well you may find a good friend

Can you tell I have OCD? I over think things, place too much importance on my own actions/thoughts, ruminate.....argh!

So, the general consensus is that it won't matter one jot but if I want to I could tell her and that would be fine.

And I can't spell 'throes' so I'm a dead loss.

absolutely have her round: even social workers need social lives

Definitely no problem - I wouldn't say anything unless she is someone you get to know as a friend.

Your last post sums up the consensus perfectly.

Hope it goes well.