To take just one of the dc's on a winter holiday next year?

[mosschops30]

No plans as yet but just an idea.

Me and dh have just returned from our only ever grown up holiday and it was bliss. However our middle dc (6) missed us terribly. He's such a sweet boy who will happily play on his nintendo ds, or listen to his ipod, eats everything and sleeps well.

We would love to do it again next year, cant take older dd as she is doing GCSE's, and the little one is just too hard work at the moment.
We have a big summer holiday for us all every year, and dd is going on a trip to Barcelona this year with the school (in fact she normally has an extra holiday every year).

So AIBU to consider just taking one with us if we go again next year?

Yes it is really mean.

I have a friend who is going to Florida for two weeks and is takeing her son who is 11, daughter who is 5 but not taking her youngest son who is 2.5

I think this is just mean and out of order.

Yes I agree it is mean and such obvious favouritism is bound to cause resentment amongst other two.

YABU. They feel it. I know you love all your DCs but did you notice you only said nice things about DC2 in your post.

Ask dd1 her opinion, seeing as she is going to barcelona she might not mind.

How old is the little one? If he is very littie then I think its ok but if he is old enough to feel left out then I think its not fair. (Unless he had an alternative "holiday" eg. at granny's house and didn't know that you were away)

I never went on 'family holidays' when I was 15 and studying for 'O' Levels (showing my age ) - I thought it was terribly 'uncool' to go away with my parents and younger siblings and was delighted to stay behind - with my grandparents staying to 'supervise me' !! It really depends on your children, have you talked to your daughter about it? Would the youngest one actually know you were going away?

I sort of think you ABU UNLESS you can spend an equal amount of time 1 on 1 with each of your other children at some other time.

I don't know how old your youngest is but they may well be missing you but not able to articulate it in a way you can understand well. You would in effectively be rewarding your middle child for being the right age and temprement to fit with what you want to do. This sort of goes against the grain for me.

I think going away with only your dh is one thing and perfectly understandable to get a break but choosing to take only one child would be one step too far for me. Then again I only have one DS so am unlikely to have this dilemma.

How long were you away on your holiday? Could you make it shorter next time and use the spare days to spend some time with you, your dh and each of your children in turn maybe doing something each child would like.

So if you have a week off, have a 3-4 day break with dh and then a day out with each child (not necessarily all in a row!).

That way you still get some time with your dh but also each of your children get some time to spend exclusively with their parents with no sibling around.

If you are only away for a few days your 6 year old may miss you less and spending the day with one child is different to spending it with three of different ages as there is less need to compromise so you may enjoy it more than if all three were there.

Your dd may not want to do this and if she doesn't, no problem as long as she is given the choice.

I am assuming that you have available childcare in all this.

dd and ds2 would stay with granny (this time the boys stayed with IL's and dd stayed with granny at our house).
We went for a week.
Its not like we dont do other things with the children, ds2 is home with
me every dayand we do stuff like jolly babies, swimming etc, me and dd have lovely girly weekends away.

I can understand what youre all saying though, which is why I came on AIBU because I wanted to know if it was?

oh and of course me and dh will probably just go together again because it was lovely