to dislike/hate One Born Every Minute?

[MrsRichardHammond]

Because it makes me cry about how diabolical my own labour and birth were?

I have only watched a couple of episodes but my facebook page is FULL of people yabbering on about it and it is the text equivilent of watching the programme so i can't avoid it.

i quite like it because i've no intention of having children. but to hear it is a rosy picture of birth is pretty horrific. i thought what they show on the programme is bad enough to be considered a contraceptive. to hear it is actually WORSE. thank goodness i don't need to put myself through it.

I am so glad I don't have channel 4, its sounds bloody awful. I didn't particularly want to be present at my own 3 births, I don't want to see anyone elses!

I hate it but only because it makes me absolutely bloody desperate to have another baby!!

DH hates it for the same reason

I should feel cheated, i've had a 32 weaker and a 27 weaker, both HIDEOUS pregnancies/births that we completely out of my control , but I don't really. No point.

A healthy living baby is all that matters. They could have pulled my DS out of my nose by the time he was born and I wouldn't have cared, as long as he was alive.

Vaginal births are not the be all and end all, if you don't have one, you have not failed.

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also why the sense of competition on how good /smooth your birth is? the baby certainly won't remember and surely beyond concern for your welfare no one actually cares - and certainly doesn't judge. maybe other mothers do?

Theres nought as competitive as mothers (present company excluded). After "Birth-Wars" comes "Playground-Wars" where all the competitiveness eaks out again. sigh

Thing is, for me certainly, it's not about guilt or competitiveness or any of that mularky it literally is just the trauma of going through a horrible labour, the neglect at the hands of the hospital staff, and the birth (which i am still having physical repurcussions from nearly 6 years later). As a previous poster stated labour and birth, to me, are not entertainment. They're horrible.

I love watching OBEM, but it often makes me feel angry for a variety of reasons (- last night - women lying on their backs like beached whales - why? This is not a good position to labour in - why don't the midwives ever say so?!?).

My first birth was very traumatic - dreadful negligent staff etc - but I guess because it was a few years ago time has healed and watching programmes like OBEM doesn't bring back any memories, really. I can understand anyone who had a more recent traumatic experience feeling a bit freaked by the programme, though...

What I love about OBEM is the joyous moment when each baby is born (bliss!), but, having had two c-sections (not through choice), it does not even slightly make me wish I had given birth vaginally . I no longer sentimentalise birth and I think OBEM is good for reinforcing that. I pity any first time mum watching it, though!

You have to remember, it is entertainment, really. It is. They don't show the awful births. There is the odd emergency section (but it doesn't accurately reflect the high section rate in this country), and obviously, it doesn't show births that end up with something very serious going wrong. Neither does it show the aftermath of birth, e.g. women who had that quick, drug free delivery struggling with third degree tear for months afterwards etc.

YANBU, I watched it last night for the first time since giving birth last March and it made me feel queasy as it brought it all back far too clearly! I watched it avidly before giving birth & I found it helpful to know what was in store (as much as you ever can!). Am pregnant again so watched it last night to brush up but now have a deep & abiding fear of a forceps delivery - ouch!

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no YANBU I feels the same and have similar issues but I do have a healthy happy baby and focus on that now but will not watch OBEM either

hate it
makes me think all men are tools and all women heroic, stoic, masters of the understatement

I totally agree with MrsRichardHammond - it's not about competitiveness, it's about having a horrible, traumatic time.

can't watch it or most things to do with childbirth. First birth was bad and 5 years later was finally diagnosed w post traumtic stress disorder resulting from the birth. Got help, largely sorted for daily life now, but don't like to visit any 'triggers' if I don't have to. Inc shows like this.

Am 40+4 with DC1. Should stop watching it!

can't watch as had terrible birth and 5 yrs later diagnosed with post traumatic stress disorder. Got help, largely sorted for daily life now but don't like to encounter 'triggers' if I don' have to.

I watched it last night and wished I hadn't. Had horrible experience at that hospital, and not going back there for next baby. Those midwives drinking tea and taking the piss out of women's suffering. Those women just left on their backs. no support. The crappy men. Hate it. couldn't sleep last night.

MrsRichardHammond, I totally understand how you feel, I honestly thought I was the only one who felt this way.

I watched the programme before my own birth experience and now I can't even watch the advert for it!

I had an awful birth experience. My body reacted very badly to being induced and ended up with an emergency c-sec under general anesthetic. Neither me or DH saw our DD being born and as I had fertility treatment to have her, we may never have another chance. I feel really hurt by this and can no longer watch other people having a normal birth experience. It just makes me upset.

@Rangirl, so sorry to hear what happened.

The crappy birth partner men lockets hardly any of them are any real support or comfort.
capricorn so sorry to hear you had such a traumatic time. Hope you are surrounded by support now to come to terms with it and enjoy your dd.

Really??? Makes me sad to see, most of them are completely out of their depth, some laughing at the pain, some texting through it, some sitting in the corner yawning, etc etc. I know some of them are ok, and I'm sure the women were glad to have them there but hardly any of them seem truly 'present' and focussed on their partner.

Obviously not talking about all men, especially your friends, who I obviously know nothing about and I'm glad they were all supported etc. I'm talking about the men over the weeks in the program only.

Ok, we obviously have different opinions about that one! I don't think they seemed close at all. I must have missed the bits when Julia was laughing and joking, seemed like him and the mum to me. But maybe he was nervous... Personally I think she was right the previous week when she called him a prick. But each to their own I guess!

lockets - I didn't see any support going on. One man laughed at his partner writhing in agony. Her mother wasn't any more help - she looked terrified. How on earth did that make the labouring woman feel? She would have been better with a midwife for support especially Chris, the yummy midhusband.