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to think that if you bring wine to a party

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gonerogue · 07/02/2011 22:05

it's very immature to hide it in your room until you want to drink it?

Had my DD's christening on Saturday and MIL came over for it so stayed with us. We spent a fair bit of money on alcohol, and what we thought were nice wines (in our price range - not cheapo but not mega expensive either). MIL is a bit of a wine snob so we chose carefully (DH likes his wine too) and thought we would be ok.

Fastforward to me changing DD upstairs and I banged into MIL coming out of her room with a bottle of wine in her hand. Thought nothing of it at the time. Then my sister asked why she kept bringing wine down from upstairs. I was a bit Hmm but said nothing.

Then Sunday DH mentioned to me that MIL had brought her own wine, and kept going upstairs to get it. And to rub salt into the wound when she ran out of her wine said to DH - "I suppose I'll have to start on your wine now"

If she had said this to me, or if I had realised what exactly was happening at the time I don't know if I would have been able to say nothing and just let it slide?

So AIBU to think this was silly, immature and frankly quite rude behaviour?

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gonerogue · 07/02/2011 22:45

kittya - I can't but do know people who say they can. We had about 60 people over (don't knwo how they fit into my house tbh) and it's customary to provide all the food and drink for christenings - she knows this too.

I am glad you all think it's bizarre - if it happens again I'll have to say something methinks.

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kittya · 07/02/2011 22:50

Its like that show Keeping Up Appearances! Smile

When she was tipsy, did she forget to go upstairs and get her stash or, dont you get drunk on posh wine?

woollyideas · 07/02/2011 22:58

People can be funny about what they drink and about sharing it. My dad used to keep Glenfiddich just for him, and offer cheap whisky to his guests. He also had a tiny little cupboard next to his armchair and if we had unexpected guests he would hide his glass in it, because if anyone saw he was having a swift one then he'd have to offer it around.

Tight arse

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gonerogue · 07/02/2011 23:30

Grin kittya - nah she had finished her stash apparently as said to DH that she would "have to" start drinking our wine then. Quiet like the Mrs. Bucket/ Bookay comparison though {grin]

Right am off to bed back to the grindstone tomorrow. Thanks for all the replies.

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gonerogue · 07/02/2011 23:31

Or quite like, as opposed to quiet Blush

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Morloth · 08/02/2011 00:46

Actually, I think this behaviour goes through rude and right into the realm of absolutely bizarred.

But there are 36 bottles of my favourite wine left in the world and I own 22 of them. I am very sparing with it and will only share it with people I know will appreciate it.

So that means I don't take it with me to parties but take another more available one and I don't offer it here unless I know they are wine snobs also. But I certainly don't drink it myself and then give my guests something else.

How bizarre.

It is more the rarity than the expense for me (though they are a bit pricey) once my stash is gone, that's it, it's gone. Sob.

CockularDepravity · 08/02/2011 03:56

It's very rude behaviour but the more pressing question is how long has she had a problem with alcohol?

onceamai · 08/02/2011 07:22

It was rude behaviour but if she managed to finish the bottle during the party and then started on yours then I think she does have a drink problem and this is the more serious issue. If she didn't have a drink problem and hadn't liked your wine she could have had a soft drink with your guests and had a tipple later, in private, in her room.

thumbdabwitch · 08/02/2011 07:28

Good grief! Did she carry the bottle around with her as well, making sure that she was the only one drinking it? Shockingly rude. If she were that concerned your wine was going to be beneath her not to her taste, she should have bought you a case of the stuff as a present!

Chandon · 08/02/2011 07:35

to know if you were BU, I need to know exactly what wine YOU were serving and normally serve.

Bunbaker · 08/02/2011 07:44

I agree with oncemai. I can't drink a whole bottle of wine without feeling rather the worse for wear, so if MIL drank an entire bottle of her own wine then started on yours she is obviously used to drinking a lot of wine in one sitting.

kittya · 08/02/2011 10:05

Some people will drink a whole bottle. I got the impression it was more than one but, that could just be the way I read it.

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gonerogue · 08/02/2011 10:37

Chandon - we were serving quite a few different bottles - Santa Rita, Wolf Blass, McGuigan, other random ones that DH has liked in the past so we i=pcked up quite a few different bottles.

To be fair, we started the party at 2 p.m. and it didn't finish until about 5 a.m. so there was a lot of drinking going on - not just her. Grin
Not sure if I mentioned that we are Irish, and it was a christening. There were a lot more than her drinking a lot more than she was - I think she had 2 bottles of her own with her.

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kittya · 08/02/2011 10:39

I love an Irish do!! Smile It mustve cost a fortune, all those guests!

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gonerogue · 08/02/2011 10:43

Yes well Kittya suffice to say it'll be beans on toast for us all for the next few months Grin It was only oee night so didn't cos tthe earth and we got all the alcohol form the wholesalers/cheap supermarket deals Grin

Had a fantastic day of it anyway.

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