I don't know where to start - am sitting in my bathroom in floods of tears after yet another SHIT weekend with my husband.
We have two small kids. We never seem to get on. We haven't had sex since we concieved our second child and so it has been two and a half years.
Most of the time we amble along and we are ok but we are not close are we as we are not physical with each other and we seem to spend a lot of time talking to each other like shit.
What happened today - he went out with our eldest to a class he does (our boy). I stayed in and started preparing lunch and also looking after our young toddler. He comes home and dinner is nearly done and I am about to tackle the washing up which he says he will do. He then is pissed off that some of the dirty plates are in on the dishcloths in the middle part of the sink (you know when the sink has three parts - the sink, the middle bit and the drainer). I am angry that he thinks it is acceptable to speak to me like this, I get mad and start go about the washing up (which he says to me I can now do because of the messy plates I'm the middle bit) and an argument escalates and now there have been more words and 'he can't stand me' and he is out of here in four weeks etc and that I am poison. I point out that if he had spoken to me I'm a better manner in the first place this would not have happened but he says i should not have been so angry with him for being pissed off! So, in my mind, he starts it by bein arsey about something so silly and I get angry because to me that is out o order and I was clearing up at the time and I get angry and a bit slamming cupboards etc and it is made to be my fault? Is it me? Is it him? Is it both of us?
I am sorry if this is all confusing and obviously there is a bigger picture but I feel he always turns things on me to make it like I am wrong. He starts this and then because I am annoyed at the way he speaks to me it is my fault?!
I feel so lonely and sad and lost
Thank you for listening. I don't know what to do x