well am i???

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well am I??? would really like to know, a friend suggested a day out today, but was was to ill to come. We (dh, dc) still went, and had a lovely day. Have spoken to friend bu text, but not once has she asked about our day etc. DH has told me to get over myself, but I think this is rude (day was a once a year kinda thing, not like we could of waited till they were better next week!) well am i being unreasionable expecting my friend to be interested or to care?

Depends on how ill she is. She's probably gutted about missing it and isn't ready to hear how it went?

Depends how ill she is. When you're feeling really shit you can forget your manners and not think past your small yellow cartoon family symptoms.

(sorry, I love that joke).

its not a big deal is it - the girl is ill - send her a lemsip and get over yourself

YABU. She probably doesn't want to hear that you've had a great time while she's feeling ill.

Have you asked how she is?

have you asked her how she's feeling or what you can do to help?

YABU

she's probably feeling too rough for polite enquiries or too hacked off for not going. She' probably ask when face to face. You get riled easily don't you?

YEP have asked, she is feeling loads better today, has been out etc, going to work etc, she is (i thought) a good friend,thats why I am a bit sad that she didn't ask :(

You sound a bit self centred TBH.

YABvU. The poor girl is ill and doesn't want to be boasted to about your lovely day out. Did you ask how she is? Did you offer to do her shopping or cook her a meal? Did you get her something from your day out which may cheer her up?

Hopefully you'll do something nice for her.

In your texts did you ask how she was feeling now? Maybe she was hoping you'd call her to ask if she was feeling better, and she thinks you're being 'rude' for not taking more care of her if she was so ill and felt so poorly that she had to miss the 'once a year kinda day' that she was probably equally looking forward to?

I think you are Poss BU, but I have to say if it was me who couldn't go, I would have asked how it went.

really dont think I am self centered, really have spoke on text loads today she has been out twice today, going to work 2mow, was only wanting a did u all enjoy today kinda of thing, but will take your comments on board, maybe I just expect to much from people, or maybe I am self centred? :(

I wouldn't get that het up about her not asking about your day. Not really something worth worrying about is it?

Perhaps I'm an awful person, or very insensitive but it wouldn't occur to me to worry about whether she'd asked about my day or not. And I can see I might easily have been the one forgetting to ask about your day. It is all too trivial.

I think YABU. I don't think you're self centred, just a teeny bit selfish in this situation. She's been ill, her first thought would not be on your day out.

You had the nice day out. She's been at home being ill. Who got the better deal exactly?

thanks everyone, always think I take things to heart to much, it's useful to hear others take on things, am acc pleased to hear its just me being to senitive as usual! Just to let you know on one of her texts she has told me she has been as the gym this afternoon, so not that ill

Stop texting, pick up the sodding phone, put it to your ear and talk to your friend.

And I'm not sorry, I hate texting. It isnt a means of communication it is just idleness.

you weren't Jajas :) will see her face to face 2mow, now I thinking I sound stupid for even posting this. It's true it really does make you better posting stuff, gets it off your chest (and mind).....think I may become a mumsnet regular (after years of lurking!)