I think i mite be...warning involves babies and weddings

[worldgonemad72]

Hi

Not sure if my sister will think im being unreasonable or not, she's getting married next May and im a bridesmaid (feel a bit foolish being a bridesmaid when i will be 35 but she asked and i didn't want say no).
Anyway me and dh have decided we want to try for 1 last baby , the age gap will be almost 3 yrs between our ds and the new baby, i feel like im getting older and its a now or never decision tbh.
Would i be unreasonable to try for a baby now? going of my previous history i normally conceive within 1 - 2 months of trying so would probably have a small baby at the wedding.
i dont want fall out with my sister but if i wait until after the wedding i will be almost 37.
How would you feel if i was your sister, would you be pissed off or happy for us?

Thanks

Go for it. It's your life. If she loves you she will be happy for you if you are expecting. If she is a bridezilla - well, that's her problem!

I would tell her that you are wanting to try for a baby and how does she feel? There are several scenarios

1. Not pregnant by the wedding.
2. At the wedding with a newborn maybe not feeling/looking your best.
3. Pregnant and having to have your dress altered.

Or you could offer to step down but still help in anyway you can.

I'm so sorry - I got carried away there! Definitely don't put your ttc on hold was the missed moral of my story!

Go for it - lots of luck!

I am due two weeks after my sister gets married in May, am still (against my better judgement) the only BM. She is fine with it but I did offer to pay for the extensive alterations that will be needed on the dress!

If you was my sister and told me you were pregnant I would be bloody delighted for you - having a dress altered is hardly the end of the World if you were pregnant/post-baby on the wedding date.

Surely you'd have to be a pretty self-obsessed shallow person to mind if your bridesmaid got pregnant? (imo!)

The worst payback though might be to make you wear a baby pink dress (it happened to me...not good and in my 30's too lol).

xx