I think i mite be...warning involves babies and weddings

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worldgonemad72 · 06/02/2011 19:21

Not sure if my sister will think im being unreasonable or not, she's getting married next May and im a bridesmaid (feel a bit foolish being a bridesmaid when i will be 35 but she asked and i didn't want say no).
Anyway me and dh have decided we want to try for 1 last baby , the age gap will be almost 3 yrs between our ds and the new baby, i feel like im getting older and its a now or never decision tbh.
Would i be unreasonable to try for a baby now? going of my previous history i normally conceive within 1 - 2 months of trying so would probably have a small baby at the wedding.
i dont want fall out with my sister but if i wait until after the wedding i will be almost 37.
How would you feel if i was your sister, would you be pissed off or happy for us?

Thanks

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rubyrubyruby · 06/02/2011 20:24

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PotPourri · 06/02/2011 20:27

Go for it. It's your life. If she loves you she will be happy for you if you are expecting. If she is a bridezilla - well, that's her problem!

ImFab · 06/02/2011 20:29

I would tell her that you are wanting to try for a baby and how does she feel? There are several scenarios

Not pregnant by the wedding.
At the wedding with a newborn maybe not feeling/looking your best.
Pregnant and having to have your dress altered.

Or you could offer to step down but still help in anyway you can.

BeatriceLaBranche · 06/02/2011 20:29

I'm so sorry - I got carried away there! Definitely don't put your ttc on hold was the missed moral of my story!

camerondiazepam · 06/02/2011 20:30

Go for it - lots of luck!

trixie123 · 06/02/2011 21:46

I am due two weeks after my sister gets married in May, am still (against my better judgement) the only BM. She is fine with it but I did offer to pay for the extensive alterations that will be needed on the dress!

TickettyBoo · 06/02/2011 22:43

If you was my sister and told me you were pregnant I would be bloody delighted for you - having a dress altered is hardly the end of the World if you were pregnant/post-baby on the wedding date.

Surely you'd have to be a pretty self-obsessed shallow person to mind if your bridesmaid got pregnant? (imo!)

The worst payback though might be to make you wear a baby pink dress (it happened to me...not good and in my 30's too lol).

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