To have asked DH for help.

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I upset DH he works bloody long hours as a self employed taxi owner-driver.Last night his alternator went so he only worked 4 hours yesterday.
He wants me to follow him up to the garage and bring him home fine I say but after dinner and you can help with the dishes his reply EH with a look of horror on his face.
I do everything in the house which I don't mind as I don't work but when he's not working I shouldn't have to ask for help should I.

A look of horror for asking to 'help' with the dishes?! WTF?!

YANBU (but you've been unreasonable to let him get this bad in the first place!!)

YANBU nothing wrong with a little help.

My dh also works long hours but I have really been annoyed lately as I also work 2 days a week and on those days I still have to look after kids and house, feed them, do lunch boxes, iron, everything when I get home.

Weekends he tends to do his own thing, I normally don't mind but them when I do ask for help I could do without the rolling of his eyes!

Sometimes the more you do, the more you are expected to do and the less anyone appreciates it!

If he is at work, then fair enough you do the majority of the housework. When he is at home, he should pull his weight. You need to get him out of the habit of expecting you to do it all. Do a bit less and pass some things over to him. Don't make a big deal of it, just pass them over as if it never crossed your mind that you should do it.

It will do neither of you any favours if you let him continue like this.

You have my sympathies. My DH works long hours too, but the house is a wreck in places and trying to get my DH to pull his finger out and fix it is like pulling teeth. I am slowly beating him into submission though

That is definatly true karma the more you do the more you are expected to do!

I was useless when dd was born, dh was brilliant, the more I tried and got better the more he expected it and then moaned when other things weren't done!

Agree with karma. I have the same here sometimes, DH is usually pretty good at sharing the domestic load evenings and weekends. However, he's self employed, and when he's between projects he can be quite self focussed and very rarely does he split the chores with me 50/50 unless I ask. It's annoying, but I think it just doesn't occur to him to do otherwise.