Perhaps childish beyond words, but wibu?

[brokeoven]

So i was very good friends with a woman for about 4 years, i considered her one of my closest pals for a long time.

Then she moved a bit away and became a bit funny with me.
We met up about once a month with other friends for a pub tea and it was still friendly.

Then the atmosphere on these meetings got a bit tense quite obviously she was pissed off at some thing.(I have NO idea what i did to offend her and have never found out either)

One day i walked passed her in the playground and said a cheery "morning" to her, she completely ignored me.Stomped passed me and ignored me.

Hay ho, i have friends, so although secretly i felt completely gutted and humiliated just because we had been so close.

So i sptopped going to meals,....kinda took the hint.
That was about 3 years ago, never seen her since, not bothered particularly.

So then i bumped into her at a freinds house last night, purely accidentally. Sje was leaving, just stepping out the door as i arrived.
She said an uncomfortable and stilted "hi", i couldnt bring myself to look at her, and just shrugged passed her and went in.

I know, childish beyond words, but i felt a wee smile inside as now i felt that she understood some of my humiliation and upset when she did it to me.

Just to add, the friend whos house it was in was in the other room, so i did not do anything at all to upset her or cause any embarrasment, i would NEVER do that as she is a love.

So i know iwbu, but was it REALLY bad,a nd should if eel bad? (cos i dont)

I think you missed a golden opportunity to ask her why she stopped talking to you in the first place.

If I was so close to someone, I wouldnt have wondered what I did to offend them, I would have outright asked them.

Well from conversations with her about relationships with friends in the past, this seems to be a thing that she did regularly. She would just cut people off, so i figured it was my time.

She never explained why, but she had very few friends because of this, i (at the time) was one of 3 friends that she had..so oddly, its just something that she did, nothing in particular that i did.

It doesn't really matter if you never see her any more. I doubt she will give it much thought, and neither should you unless you make a habit of these kind of human interactions (but it sounds like you don't).

I've had friends like that. One in particular was only interested in me while my kids were under 5 . Then she dropped me like a hot stone and moved onto the next person with babies.

I see her rarely and am always friendly. It was very upsetting at the time but life's too short to hold grudges and I think you were childish tbh.

I dont think you were being childish - but I have to agree that it was a great chance to ask her what happened, regardless of whethere doing this kind of thing was normal or not for her, she must have had some reason, imagined or otherwise. I would have said "oh youre talking to me know, why didnt you...."

gaaaah i wish i had said that to her now Newgold.....although i couldnt give a fiddlers fart about it now, i am still curious.

thanks gissa, that is how i feel.

ta chuck!

yep i think if it had beenme i would have reponded to her stilted "hi" with.

a big loud chery "oh hi X, how are you doing? i haven't seen you since you blanked me in the playground, so what's brought on this change in attitude tonight?" and then looked at her with a huge expectant grin on my face. but i'm a bit naughty.