Is it unreasonable to discuss men you fancy with your friends

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.....when you're happily married?

Ken Bruce told a joke on Radio 2 last week.
Well at least I hope it was a joke, but it was dressed up as a real life anecdote.

Four couples were at a dinner party and after several bottles of wine had been consumed they got onto the subject of who they'd love to sleep with in their fantasies. They went around the table one and at a time, and the first woman said 'George Clooney' then the first man said 'Angeline Jolie', and so on. Fiona Bruce, Michel Roux, etc, etc, until it got to one particular man, who got all huffy, refusing to join in, saying it was inappropriate and bound to end in tears.

His wife said, Oh don't be silly Dear, it's only a bit of fun. It's just in your fantasies. Everyone else has had a go - don't be so uptight.'

So he thought for a bit and said: 'Oh, alright. I've always really fancied my secretary.'

Arf, Fallatio

Fellatio, i heard that joke too!!

DH and I have "an allowed list" his allowed list comprises of Kylie Minogue, Megan Fox and the rest of the usual suspects whereas mine changes with the weather. We were discussing actors with friends recently and i mentioned that I would be adding Jason Statham, or whosever it was, to the allowed list. I got a few glances that day.

I got married, I didn't lose my sight as well!
If all you're doing is saying you'd go for him if you were single, I don't see a problem. You can still think someone is 'phwoargh' even when married, and want to do them lol as long as you don't act on it!

I've been married for nearly 19 years and I've only ever 4 times felt that 'phwoar' feeling about another man I've seen/known in real life. With one of them there was no acknowledgement/connection on their part that I was aware of, with another there was lots of slightly self-conscious eye-contact but nothing worse, and with the other two I was made very much aware that the feeling was mutual - and I ran RAN RAN like a scared rabbit!

You norty girll!

No! Not norty. Very, very well behaved. (I wish we had a halo emoticon)

You had impure thoughts, say a few Hail Marys and remove a gin from your glass as penance

All those slightly impure thought were a very long time ago. No-one remotely tempting has crossed my path in a very long time.

(that might be because I never leave the house except to go to Sainsbury's. )

I know the feeling!

We talk about shlebs we fancy and will also acknowledge someones attractiveness in real life.

Last year I acted in a play opposite The Most Attractive Man Alive (bar dh). I told dh how jaw dropping he was and eventually we all met for a drink. Dh's reaction was "Bloody 'ell, I'm a BLOKE and can see how attractive he is, also a really nice bloke-bastard!"

All in jest :)

Goodness! I would happily have a conversation about finding someone at work attractive - whether male or female. That's a world away from being attracted to them!

What else would you talk about?! Also like a good game of 'Who would you rather shag - Barak Obama or Tony Blair?' insert names of choice You think it would be obvious but you always get some surprise answers!

Barack. Who'd chose Tony?

I would. Only so I could tie the fucker up and beat the crap out of him.

Then I'd tell him I was into S&M.

I thought it was a no brainer until sick friend chose Tony and admitted he had long been her guilty pleasure!

is that not why we have friends?