faking pnd to avoid going back to work

[AuntiePickleBottom]

a friend of mine is planning to do this, i really am fuming about it.

i have been battling PND for ages now and finally have in under control with help from medication.

why would anyone want depression on there medical notes, for the sake of not going to work.

Stealth quite!

I think if she really can't face work then it's possible she is depressed.

blimey 95% of the nation must be blimmin depressed then

no :( Only thing I had left to try was switching it offf at the mains and then on again but was putting it off as it meant pulling it out. Then we had a power cut which effectively did that for me :o and it still doesn't work :( LUckily we were able to renew the guarantee so just waiting for the paperwork to come through so I can call someone

Hope it gets sorted soon - would hate to be without mine for long!

Sorry - I haven't read the whole thread because I read the first post and felt compelled to answer quickly.

PND is not a joke.

It is not a reason not to work.

It is not a flippant thing like a hangover or an excuse to get out of a wanky meeting.

PND is the very worst thing. It destroys lives and families and futures and relationships and businesses and everything.

I am sorry that your friend does not want to return to work but she should grow a pair and tell the truth. She should also apologise to you. She doesn't sound like much of a friend, actually.

Well she is going to have to fake it pretty damned well, PND can be crippling, i should know, i was almost pyschotic and definately couldnt have worked. There are varying levels and one might argue that someone with low level depression might actually be better off working!

I am disgusted with your friend, what exactly does she think she has to do to fake this?

Tell the doctor shes not feeling so great?

See, i tried to stab my DP, scalded him in the shower and came out with all sort of irrational shit, does she really want that sort of thing on her medical record?

{grin] Stealth, i scrolled up and read your post about the dishwasher, not realising it wasn't pertinent to the thread, i thought, oh no, what did this poor woman do!

Good god. I don't know what to say. Have you had the chance to talk to her yet OP ?
Do think that someone actually contemplating this needs some sort of help.

Does she work for the NHS by any chance ?
It's standard practice at some hospitals.

My doctor signed me off with stress after i'd been back to work for 9 months after maternity leave, I was stressed but not anything like softglowsandmaybes so it's pretty easy to pull the wool over peoples eyes if you wanted to.

I wouldnt want anyone NHS helping me if they didnt want to be there, I'd rather them signed off with imaginary illnesses!!

I very often can't be arsed going to work. Should I invent some symptoms and expect my employer/the state to fund me sitting around on my arse?

A friend of mine did this she actually planned it before the baby was even born so she could go back to work after a certain event. Luckily for her she didn't get PND but persuaded her GP to sign her off for several months. At the time I was suffering from PND and felt that anyone could pretend to have PND as it made it harder for those genuinely suffering to be believed and to access treatment. Sadly when her DC3 was born 3 years later she developed severe PND and I have often wondered if she regretted her previous actions.

softglowsandmaybes hope youre feeling much better now.

It was when I was out in the street and my nightie about to hit a waterboard man who had turned the water off that I started to realise that I may have PND. DS3 now 3, love him to bits but I dont think the bond was formed as strongly as it could at the time.

This makes me . When i had DD i was just made redundant, i got MA but when it ran down i was not in a fit state to work. I applied for ESA and when i had my medical it said there was nothing wrong with me!! With ESA they are trying to say so many people are ok and i think its because of fakers clogging up the system that genuine cases aren't believed and they assume anyone claiming for PND is just chancing their arm. PND is a horrible illness and people faking it are demeaning it. Would people fake cancer? PND is very misunderstood unless you yourself have suffered. Anyone i told that i had PND there first reaction was "so you don't want to go back to work?" like it was my choice not to go back to work. Yes because i would rather spend my days in a psychiatric day hospital than in work

Spongebobs, thats a valid point, but i would rather not pay their wages with my tax while they are skiving

I managed to write up a PhD in the midst of the worst of my PND, to this day, i dont remember a thing about writing it, but i got it - maybe they saw the mad look in my eye and thought they better play nice .
I couldnt have actually gone into work though.

The most annoying reaction i used to get was "ah we all get the baby blues don't we!" errrr yeah, righto!