AIBU in hoping to start a new relationship via internet dating in my 40s?

[janelikesjam]

I am in my mid-late 40s and am reasonably attractive, look younger than my years, am self-educated, cultured, a bit unconventional, with a lot to offer I have been told! (sorry, done too many "profiles"!)

Have been doing internet dating for a few months but its been increasingly disappointing. I am not cynical, but am getting very frustrated that whats on offer in the opposite sex is mostly so physically unprepossessing / mentally dull with few exceptions (and those exceptions aren't interested in me!).

I have very few opportunity to meet men as a I am single parent in restricted circumstances, so this is one of the few ways I can meet single men.

Am I fooling myself, or have other people found positive experiences "online" in the end? Is it just sheer stamina and persistence, or should I just give up?

A good friend of mine (then in her mid-40s) met her dh through Guardian Soulmates and has been happily married for 5 years now.

i meet DH online. My friend also met her DH online (match.com). we are both happily married with a DD each. If god forbid things went wrong with DH, I would go online again. It easier than getting dolled up and going to a bar and basing people on looks alone, plus if they are also on a (paid) site they are looking for something more than a shag. You cut out a lot of crap.

i know someone who met her fiance on eharmony

they are having and eharmony baby

she is 44, he is 50

I'm not in my 40s yet but met DP on-line, met my XH in real life. Goes to show there are nutters everywhere no more likely on-line.

I agree with fabby re pay sites being better, I think you have just had bad luck so far.