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AIBU?

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to cancel DD's birthday party?

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SpawnChorus · 05/02/2011 08:58

I think I know the answer to this, but just wanted to check before I committed to cancelling.

Her party was meant to be last weekend, but cancelled as DS2 was sick. Rescheduled for today. DH has been very sick for the last couple of days (v unlike him. He never gets ill!) and is still feeling a bit ropey at the arse end.

DD (6) was completely off her food yesterday and complaining of a sore tummy. She's just done a v runny poo. However she does seem completely bright and chirpy.

I need to cancel don't I?

BTW it would be nine kids partying chez nous.

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SpawnChorus · 05/02/2011 09:00

My cancellation text message is drafted and ready for dispatch.

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gillybean2 · 05/02/2011 09:00

Where is the party being held?

diddl · 05/02/2011 09:01

Sounds like it!

Not fair to the others-of her-if she´s doing "runny poos".

TheProvincialLady · 05/02/2011 09:02

Oh yes, cancel and apologise - no one will thank you for spreading that germ. And you get to eat all the cake so it's win-win.

SKYTVADDICT · 05/02/2011 09:03

Sorry yes I would be cancelling - I think all the parents will understand and be grateful!

shirazgirl · 05/02/2011 09:04

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SpawnChorus · 05/02/2011 09:04

Here, gilly.

Poor DD. I do feel sad for her. Have sent message.

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pigletmania · 05/02/2011 09:10

Glad you cancelled it, its not just a cold but D/V bug, parents would not appreciate their dcs catching that. Could you re schdule.

TheProvincialLady · 05/02/2011 09:15

My 6th birthday party was cancelled because I had chicken pox and I have got over it (with extensive counselling, obv). My parents took me out for the day as soon as I was no longer contagious - maybe that is the way forward?

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SpawnChorus · 05/02/2011 09:19

Yes I have to say that I'm firmly in the cancel-it-please camp if it's the other way round. The only reason that I was querying it is that a couple of my friends were happy to let their kids play with DS2 last week when he was ill (they were fully aware of the vomming!) and they made me wonder if I was generally a bit too precious about germ-spreading. Their philosophy was that where there are kids there are germs, and there's no point trying to avoid bugs.

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SpawnChorus · 05/02/2011 09:21

TPL - yes, we'll make it up to her today in a quiet quarantiney sort of a way, and we'll reschedule the party for another day

...although we did also take her out last weekend to make up for that cancelled party. I guess she's doing quite well out of this

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TheProvincialLady · 05/02/2011 09:41

I am quite lax when it comes to cold germs, but anything D&V I want to avoid because it is so nasty and can bring the whole family to its knees (literally). I would never let my DC play with a recently vomming child...I'm surprised anyone would choose to.

Imnotaslimjim · 05/02/2011 09:45

I'm with Provincial. I know you can't prevent them catching colds etc but and D&V bug should be avoided if possible. We all got norovirus 2 Christmasses ago and it was awful. 4 days of 15 people back and for to the loo was not funny :(

eaglewings · 05/02/2011 09:48

School dictates 48 hours after last symptoms before the child can return to school. Used to be 24 hours.
If you have 2 people in the house still with d even without the v I think you have made the right move

TheProvincialLady · 05/02/2011 09:50

15 people....how many loos?

ItsAllaBitDeathlyQuiet · 05/02/2011 09:51

sprays laptop with anti-bac spray

Happy Birthday to your little one.

ItsAllaBitDeathlyQuiet · 05/02/2011 09:51

Oh. I did the * thing.

pigletmania · 05/02/2011 10:03

Its not precious to keep your child away from others children/people who have or have recently had the d/v bug under 48 hours. Why should you subject your child to that when it can be avoided . My dd was invited to a party whereby the child and the family had d/v under 48 hours, and my dd got sick, she was only 1 year so was not nice on her or us tbh. I did not know this until we turned up, but was too embarrassed to leave. Some people just do not think.

gillybean2 · 05/02/2011 10:45

If party at your house then yes you have to cancel.
Was only asking because if you were having it elsewhere your dh could possibly have stayed home with dd and you could have taken ds to wherever party was as he has already had it.
Assuming dd you would have been ok with that.

pigletmania · 05/02/2011 10:57

Gillybean it was a party for her dd birthday, so to leave her at home with dh would defeat the object really.

gillybean2 · 05/02/2011 11:03

Ahh, I thought it was her ds's party. My mistake :)

Marlinspike · 05/02/2011 11:05

at "bit ropey at the arse end!

Yes, you've done the right thing - is the cake at all freezable? You could still cut it and give out at school on Monday if not.

Hope your family recovers soon (and that you avoid any arse-end ropeiness)- I suggest a quiet day snuggled infront of a nice family film.

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SpawnChorus · 05/02/2011 11:22

Good idea re: cake.

Hadn't decorated it yet, so I guess it can be frozen.

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pigletmania · 05/02/2011 11:43

Thats ok gillybean

pigletmania · 05/02/2011 11:44

Well spawn dds godmother made her a lovely merry go round cake with butter icing for her birthday last year, it was huge so i froze half of it, defrosted it and it was fine, icing as well. It tasted great.

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