To want a bit of a rest during 2nd pregnancy?

[Caz10]

Or is this just the reality with 2nd/subsequent pregnancies?!

I am in my 3rd trimester, work 4 days a week and have a toddler, so it probably goes without saying I am pretty tired!

Dh is very good in general - he probably has dd1 more than me due to working hours, he does loads of housework, again mainly due to being around the house more than I am. I'd say we both pull our weight pretty evenly (although he would disagree, but that's) another thread )

Anyway, while he continues to do all that,I am doing just as much as I was pre-pregnancy, prob even more now than I was when I was so sick in 1st trimester, and quite frankly I'm bloody knackered and want a rest!

Am I just being a bit of a wimp?! I understand it is not like my first Pg where I could have nice afternoon naps on the weekend and stuff. Early nights not an option as I have work to do plus the usual household crap, although again Dh is very good and does most of it while I get Dd to bed, if he is around.

I'd just quite like someone to come along and say I'll take Dd so you can get your feet up for am hour! Or does that just not happen once you have kids?!

Don't doubt yourself, he is being quite horrid actually.

DH shoos me over the the sofa and makes me sit down while he gets stuff done.
I have quite bad SPD and he doesn't want me to be in anymore pain than can be helped.

Tell him you need to rest, and then rest.

Is it feasible that you could get a cleaner for a few months to get you over the 3rd trimester and newborn stage? Ours started 3 weeks ago and they have been a godsend.

YANBU, but try a third.

YANBU, I hope you can find time to talk to your DH calmly and say that housework standards are the least of your problems when you have to work, do childcare, and grown a person all at the same time. Point out that if you strain yourself and can't do anything, he will be left to do everything for real. Would he rather that than he gives you a bit of support now?

I am 33 weeks with DC3 and looking after a 3.5 and 2 year old while doing all the housework (DH works FT and I am a SAHM) and I am knackered, I don't know how bad I would feel if I worked too!

YADNBU, I'm 35 weeks and have just finished work today thank god. It's really knackering the last few weeks and the only way I've got through it recently is by getting my DH or other family members to take out my DS on one of the weekend days for a couple of hours while I rest. My DH has started taking him swimming at a weekend.

I don't do bathtime though, my DH has always done this, and we do alternate bed times. I think it's too much to ask you to do bath time this far gone with all the bending and lifting if your DH is about and could be doing it.

It sounds like he needs to lower his standards or get in some extra help. You will have much less time when dc2 is born - the workload doubles (obviously!).

I know how you feel btw. I spend my last trimester with dc2 longing to have the baby so I could have a nap in the hospital afterwards.