To leave my 16 month old for 2 days?

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I need to go away for work for 48 hours in about 6 weeks. DS is still BF (just at bedtime and sometimes once in the night) and I am not sure how he will cope with me being away for that long (he is very clingy since having started nursery - see my other thread).
I am planning to start to phase out the bedtime feed soon, and he is close to my DH - adores him in fact. My Mum will also be around.
AIBU to go away - should I cancel/rearrange the trip?

Go on your trip he will be fine for 2 days.

YANBU

that's easy for me to say though, my DD (also 16 months) is not clingy.

i have left my daughter twice since she was born (both weekends away, not work related) of course you feel some form of mother's guilt, but TBH i don't think they care?

if your child is close to your DH and your mum i'm sure you won't have an issue. maybe the break will do both you and DS good?

YANBU.

It will be good for him to bond with other people and experience another voice, another method of play and doing things.

You also need to be you instead of a pair of boobs for a couple of days.

YADNBU - i can see there is added difficulty with bfing but if i had the childcare I'd be quite happy to leave my DD for a couple of nights (she's 1yr). Hell, I'd go for a week or two if i could.

I had to leave DD1 for 3 days when she was 16 months when I had appendicitis (was also 7 weeks pregnant with DD2) and she was BFing about4 times per day at that point. She just carried on as before when I got back from hospital (inbetween me vomiting due to morning sickness and crying because vomiting hurt my stitches). Even with all that going on she was totally fine and unfazed by it all.

I just did a 4 day work trip.... My 16.5m old bf twice a day normally. DH said he was a bit unsettled in the mormings but a cup of warm fridge milk seemed to sort him, and he picked up where he left off when i got home.

Btw i pumped twice a day when away and wore pads(lilypadz). Was great i could have a proper drink and not worry!!

Sorry meant to finish.... I am sure the whole thing was worse for me rather than him....

DD found nursery unsettling for a few weeks (I virtually wore her as a trouserleg for one entire weekend) then relaxed - you might find he's much less clingy in 6 weeks time having settled.
I am very PFB and I say Go for it!

Thanks very much for the replies :)
Feeling very reasurred about going away now... just need to stop the BF at bedtime now. Don't suppose anyone has any tips?

Does he already have milk from a cup at other times in the day ? I'm assuming he does, so it shouldn't be a problem the actual drinking part.
If it's possible for you to go out over bedtime and let DH have a go, I'd do that. I BF DS1 til 13mths until I found out I was pregnant and very quickly (within a week) went from 3 feeds a day to 0.
IME (3DSs) it has never been as difficult to do as I imagine it will be. I've recently stopped feeding DS3 and just gave him milk from a cup myself. He seemed to accept what was going on without a bother.

TBH, I think it was a bigger deal for me than it was for them. And actually I really really enjoy giving the baby his milk in a cup - just as much as BF....

Good god woman, get a grip! (Meant in the nicest possible way.) My DS is 6 months old, I'm breastfeeding, and I do a 36-40 hour commute away from him every week. I pump 50 fl oz while I'm away and transport it back home with me in cool bags. Have to be amazingly organised, and am completely dependent on my Medela Swing functioning properly, but it works, and DS is perfectly happy at nursery/with Daddy overnight.

Wow beanlet . I think you are completely right - he is a big boy now!

Thanks for the advice Wirlies - he does take a cup so we will give that a go at bedtime - from DH. Can't really go out very easily but I could lurk downstairs. Think we'll try tomorrow...

yanbu

he will be fine, but its compleytely noirm al to worry

enjoy! if yuou can

ref BF, the only way to stop, is, to stop! the milk dies up, there is no milk. sad, but true