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To think that the buyer should just get her act together and stop delaying us all...(this is a rant by the way - you have been warned!)

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KirstyJC · 04/02/2011 14:15

AAAARRRRRGHHHH!!!! Can't say this to her in real life (probably just as well) so am venting here.....

We finally sold our house at the end of Nov after being on the market since Feb last year. Our buyers love it and their buyer is a first-time buyer who told them she was in a rush to move in. So far, so good.

So, we all pulled out the stops to get the move done ASAP which is what we all wanted anyway. We all agreed mid-end Jan for completion. Patience has never been my thing and I am due to give birth in March so we all wanted to move things along as quick as possible.

The first time buyer has been hard to contact and information has been misleading to say the least.......we have already delayed exchange and completion 3 times and today she is apparently saying she now wants to wait until middle of March as she isn't around until then (moving down from London).

We were all set to exchange today and move next Friday - this has completely come out of the blue and I AM FURIOUS!!!!!!! Angry

AIBU to expect her to at least keep us all informed? She is aware that I am pregnant, and the implications of a delay!. I know she doesn't have to do anything legally, but surely morally at least telling us her thoughts BEFORE the day we are expecting to exchange isn't asking too much is it?!?!? I mean she must have known she wanted to delay things and she has known the planned dates for weeks.

GRRRRRRR!AngryAngry

OK, rant over. I feel a bit better now thanks Smile

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GypsyMoth · 04/02/2011 14:17

do house moves ever go smoothly?? and it could be worse,could've pulled out or something!

gordyslovesheep · 04/02/2011 14:19

oh rant away I really feel for you Angry

I sold the family home (divorce) in April last year to a 'really keen' couple who had a 'cash buyer' - my arse

thanks to them having the worlds worst solicitor ever and a not cash buyer who couldn;t get a mortgage sorted I finall moved in on 22nd Oct (new build I almost lost the house)

Original date - booked movers etc was July 19

I was ready to commit murder Angry

scurryfunge · 04/02/2011 14:19

Can you offer her some incentive to exchange sooner rather than later?

Or maybe withdraw something if she doesn't complete, like curtains, carpets,etc.

GloriaSmut · 04/02/2011 14:19

I feel your pain. I'm sorry to say that all this sounds like time-wasting on a grand scale and I wonder whether she intends to go ahead at all.

nymphadora · 04/02/2011 14:22

We are selling a flat which luckily we dont live in as it was first sold in July. On second buyer now which has been going since start of Dec. . We gave up on the other buyer.

Must be awful regarding pg though.

MrSpoc · 04/02/2011 14:22

id say you are putting it back on the market and if another buyer comes along she looses out. (this could back fire)

Fimbo · 04/02/2011 14:23

I think I would be demanding that exchange takes place today as agreed previously to prevent her from backing out and give a definate date in March to complete.

You have to fight your corner otherwise these people thing they can pull all the shots.

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KirstyJC · 04/02/2011 14:27

It isn't our buyers, it is the buyer of our buyers, so can't give her an incentive. Our buyers are just as cross!!

The feeling is that she is just a bit blase about the whole thing, young single professional just starting out, no real idea of the problems she might cause. She would have incurred some costs herself (London prices too) so can only assume she is serious about buying. Our estate agent is speaking to her estate agent who and solicitor - both of whom think she is still keen to buy, just being flaky. They are pushing as hard as they dare to exchange and complete earlier - estate agent has even offered to drive past the house every day it is empty to check it!!

She doesn't want the house empty for a month - I wonder if living in London has made her paranoid, as it is hardly crime central where she is moving to!

I just hope it doesn't drag on too long as the mortgage offer is only valid until April and then I will be on Mat Leave and unlikely to get a mortgage and we can't then afford to move!

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Fimbo · 04/02/2011 14:29

You need to call and hound the estate agents/solicitors continually, you have to get her to exchange at the very least.

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KirstyJC · 04/02/2011 14:30

And we can't exchange today as although she has signed the contract she hasn't posted them to solicitor yet, or paid the deposit.

The trouble with pushing her too hard is that she might pull out.....then we're well and truly stuffed! I am confident our buyers love our house and would prob try and find another buyer for theirs in order to keep pur but since mortgage offer would run out we might not be able to move then......

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VerintheWhite · 04/02/2011 17:53

This happened to me, we finally lost patience and said we would be putting it back on the market, I instructed the Estate Agent to put it on at a higher price (prices were rising at the time) and they got their arses in gear and the sale went threw. I was so angry I was ready to put it back on the market and willing to as well. Only do this if you arnt bluffing!

stoatie · 04/02/2011 18:36

This happened to me. I was pregnant with DD2, husband had already moved (we were relocating several counties) so we were paying mortgage and rent, only saw husband at weekends etc, plus my job offer was getting dodgy (as been open for a while) and I had 2 children I wanted settled in school (esp as DD1 was moving to Secondary school later that year and I wanted her to make friends before the change etc). I finally flipped, changed husbands single room accommodation for family sized flat, told solicitor to send letter stating it would go on market if not exchanged in a week, at same time as moving with only estate agent and solicitor having my contact number (as our buyer had hassled me a lot on home number) The day after she received the letter (2 days after our "flit" ) the deposit was paid and exchange had gone through. She then wanted to move when we were on holiday so she had to wait!! I did get into new house before DD2 born Smile

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KirstyJC · 25/02/2011 21:10

Yay!! We have just exchanged! She finally signed and we are moving in two weeks!

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lurkerspeaks · 25/02/2011 21:40

The first time I bought a property it was new build and completion was delayed by 4 months.

I was evicted from my rented accomodation as it was being demolished and made homeless with 3 months to go. Fortunately I had good friends in the area with a spare room.

FudgeGirl · 25/02/2011 21:47

Congrats Kirsty! It is so stressful.

OH went round to his buyers' buyer's house to give him a piece of his mind - this idiot had decided to do all the legal stuff (searches etc) himself, but didn't have a clue and was holding everyone up. Solicitors and estate agents had been on at him for weeks for holding up the chain, OH was livid.

OH asked his buyers where their buyer lived, found his house and knocked on the door - and told him how he was ruining his life by not sorting his shit out. OH was in a very bad relationship and sleeping on the sofa with his ex and her children, it was terrible.

It worked - the chap saw sense and they were moved within two weeks.

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