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AIBU?

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To be pleased dc lost own choice time?

13 replies

Blondeshavemorefun · 03/02/2011 15:51

Dc2 5yrs when at school yesterday with two other friends decided to deliberately break something that another child built

Teacher told him off and took away own choice time for him and the 2 friends today and tomorrow.

He had to sit in same room at a table and do some writing while other children played

I have no problem with this and 100% agree though seems one of the mums of the naughty other children has complained that it's not fair

Aibu to be pleased that dc got punished?

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CupcakesHay · 03/02/2011 17:04

Not at all. Hopefully your DC will learn from this. And teacher's are meant to use the school rules to punish - which are freely available to parents to read - so it's the other mum being unreasonable.

purplepidjin · 03/02/2011 17:08

Your DC will learn far more from knowing you're consistent with the school than from knowing you'll undermine his teacher at every opportunity - she is teaching her dc to be a spoiled little brat to who(m?) consequences, including the law, need not apply...

onehotmomma · 03/02/2011 17:09

I would be pleased too :) I know a couple of mums who don't like there children being displined and there right little brats

Pancakeflipper · 03/02/2011 17:12

teacher sounds jolly sensible. What's the problem for the mother complaining? She not do discipline ?

AMumInScotland · 03/02/2011 17:14

YANBU - actions have consequences. The sooner children learn that, the sooner they can make informed choices.

I'll bet the whinging mum would be the first one into the school complaining if her child's construction had been broken and no-one had been punished for it!

katiestar · 03/02/2011 17:24

I hope you replaced the item too!

mumsy2002 · 03/02/2011 17:25

I think the mother who complained probably thinks her child can do no wrong.If a child is naughty the teacher has a right to disapline them.

cumfy · 03/02/2011 18:02

Surely they should build a replacement.

What was it ?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 03/02/2011 18:07

im all for discipline and teachers have to stand their ground and im happy to 100% support them

katie not possible to replace - not if they broke a toy etc

cumfy it was a tower made with bricks/cardboard and other stuff, but girl spent 2 days building it - tbh im intrigued what it must have looked like

i can build towers in a few mins for dc3 with bricks

i have read other threads where some op are not happy where their dc had to sit with head down on desk for play/choice time as had been naughty - again this wouldnt bother me, but far better to make them watch the others playing or do work as my dc had to do

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clam · 03/02/2011 18:13

On what grounds did the other mother think it was unfair?

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Blondeshavemorefun · 03/02/2011 20:36

dont know tbh, heard them talking in playground and she said along the lines of 'the teacher wasnt very nice to take away your play time'

where i was,that wasnt very nice,how you would feel if someone broke something you made etc

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CockularDepravity · 03/02/2011 20:39

What's unreasonable about a child who has done something wrong being disciplined?

cumfy · 03/02/2011 22:55

Definitely an afternoon of solid tower-building followed by the victim destroying it in a manner of their choosing. :o :o

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