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In thinking this mum is bonkers?

41 replies

verytellytubby · 02/02/2011 16:15

I'm usually very laid-back but quite flabbergasted.

I invited one of DD's friends for tea and the mum refused and said 'There's no point continuing the friendship as they are going to different secondary schools!' Shock

The girls are year 4 (aged 8) and have been friends since nursery!

I have no idea what secondary school DD will be going to yet. I was so shocked I ended up lamely blushing saying nothing.

FFS. I'm finding it hard to get my head around her comment (no drip feeding, no previous problems).

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upahill · 02/02/2011 16:50

I would just say to here next time something like ' I don't get it, what the fuck were you on about the other day? They are happy as friends or am I missing something?'

tougholdbird · 02/02/2011 16:50

Could be she is worried her DD won't get into your local school and is trying to encourage her to have friends who may be in same position. If you only have limited time for after school social stuff then sometimes it might seem to be a good idea to focus your efforts? She could have couched it more diplomatically though...

Original poster
verytellytubby · 02/02/2011 17:08

upahill That's exactly what I'm going to say.
Although I was hoping that posting on MN without any changes in detail might do it for me Wink

tougholdbird She's in the catchment for the best school round here. I don't think we are so that may be the reason. Sad if it is. My best friend is the girl I met on my 5th birthday despite going to different secondary schools.

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cumfy · 02/02/2011 18:11

She's an MNer ?

unfitmother · 02/02/2011 18:14

How strange! Shock

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verytellytubby · 02/02/2011 18:19

Cumfy No idea I was joking.

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cumfy · 02/02/2011 18:27

Mysterious.

Did it sound like something she'd planned to say or had you caught her "on the the hop" ?

JamieLeeCurtis · 02/02/2011 18:58

Please try and get more info from her so we can point and laugh understand

wayoftheworld · 02/02/2011 19:16

Walk away!! Dont even try to understand or ask questions on what is going on. If that make you blush it would get worser if you push the matter. Walk away and encourage your doughter to become friends with a lot of other kids... put this down to one of those weird experiences. If she is courteour than be polite but keep your distance!!

mumbar · 02/02/2011 19:25

Yes very wierd. My DS (yr 2) best friends don't go to the same infant school. They go to the primary and he met them at nursery. He will hopefully go to the same secondary as them (my old one) but its out of catchment. He may want to go to the catchment secondary with his schoolfriends tho.

maltesers · 02/02/2011 19:27

a weird unfriendly woman. . .very antisocial and obviously has sooooo many friends that she doesnt need anymore!
She is rude and ungrateful and if your 2 dds get on then she is selfish !!
huh ! . . . . some fold are so weird !!

Horton · 02/02/2011 20:05

Good grief. Very very odd indeed!

Feegle · 02/02/2011 20:18

How odd. What is the secondary school situation where you are. How is she so certain ?

squareheadcut · 02/02/2011 20:18

verytellytubby - that is unbelievable she said that

emmy56 · 02/02/2011 21:30

Sounds like an excuse to me - caught on the hop. Would leave it she might have some issues.

Foreverondiet · 02/02/2011 22:34

Odd, DD is 7, her best friend is still a girl who she went to nursery with, they haven't been at school together since they were 3.

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